Author: Zandra L.

A writer and a manager by accident.

Do you have this kind of behavior?

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The reason why I shop a lot is not because I have more money to spend for, but this is something that I can make it happen!

I am not saying nor encouraging every one of you to buy something that will not benefit you in the long run. But rather, I’m trying to tell you something to buy the things that can make you happy; that can at least compensate you to things that are not possible to happen as of the moment.

Moreover, I shop a lot whenever I am at my lowest, ’cause I have this strong belief that by simply rewarding yourself…that will give you comfort; will remind you of how worthy you are; and will help you accept the fact that it is okay to not feel okay.

In short, I find it therapeutic for me ’cause there is something good to look forward to.

And I bet, everyone loves that kind of feeling, too.

You see, when everything is dull, boring or monotonous, at least you get to see new things at home and get to try some other stuff while choosing to stay at home to be safe and covid-free!

Again, I do not buy something all for nothing. But rather I buy in order to gain something and that creates a difference from a naive to a smart shopper.

How about you? What’s your story? Please share it below. Gracias!

Why 2gether: The Series is worth watching?

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Ever wondered why this series became a hit? Well, you are at the right place ’cause I am about to tell you what made this series touched many lives.

First, the most obvious one is the fact that it talks about LGBT community where it shows an acceptance to someone’s sexual orientation. Regardless of gender, he/she is still a human who also has feelings. In addition to that, this Thai TV series show that being gay or liking someone of the same gender doesn’t mean it is a bad thing. It is just not normal for other people to see. Through this, viewers were taught that it is not wrong to like someone of the same gender. I believe that it is not even their own choice to become like that, but rather it is God’s plan. Even though we are still young and innocent, people can already see several signs that this child maybe gay or lesbian by just observing his or her behavior. Some people cannot just handle the fact that it turned that way and continue to hope that he/she will magically change once they’ve become attracted to an opposite sex. But I’ll tell you, no matter how much effort you’ve tried to avoid it, if it is bound to happen, it will happen.

Why God chose them to be different?

Probably to teach us to have some kind of respect and not just an acceptance for one another. To know that your worth was actually not measured by your own sexual preference, but rather by how well you treat others and that is what truly matters to our great creator.

Second, it talks about insecurities. Male, female or someone in between has that. It just goes to show that being in a relationship does not mean would make you stronger. ‘Cause at the end of the day, no matter how your partner try to love you, protect you or save you, if you alone have no confidence for yourself as well as your trust for your partner, then you need to focus on yourself first instead of staying in a relationship. Not only that this will give you a lot of stress, but you will also put a lot of damage/harm to the person who gives nothing but his time and love for you. I know, having someone is a nice thing for it makes us giddy. But if you think that you are immature and cannot handle things, better yet not entertain any form of relationships at the meantime. Thus, I strongly believe that…

Being in a relationship shouldn’t make you feel small, but rather will boost your own self. It should also be a team who doesn’t hide anything for one another.

To have a kind of long lasting relationship, there should be trust for one another. I am not saying that you have to be complacent or act like a fool. I am just saying that maybe it is just your own insecurities that is destroying the relationship. Maybe you need to trust more and do more towards your partner. You see, relationship wouldn’t survive if one person remains to be weak. If you want a happy and long lasting relationship, do something about it. Fight for your love. Open up. And don’t just conclude that you fully understand everything you see or hear. Give the person at least the benefit of the doubt to make the relationship work; to make it last. 💞

Sometimes, good relationships are already there at our hands. However, if you were full of insecurities towards yourself, you will not be able to see it. You will always appear to be the victim in the relationship. But in the end, truth will prevail. ☝

One day, when you are already matured enough, you’ll know that what relationship truly needs is just a little bit of trust. If you cannot trust your own self worth, that is really going to be a lot of hard work to trust the other.

Sometimes, we are just eaten by our own emotions. We can’t think well and thus, more often than not, we are the ones who’s at fault. 💔

By the way, this is also not to say that you have to keep the relationship going if you are no longer happy and confident about this relationship. If you have been physically and emotionally abused, of course, that’s a different story from having trust issues in the relationship. I know, oftentimes, we easily assume that seeing your partner to be with the opposite sex is better for that is what the thing that is acceptable to our society. But if the person you love is telling you that it is just nothing, then you better believe it. Not unless it is pretty obvious that this person is cheating on you, then you must leave. But again, if it is just in your head, why not give it a little bit of patience and trust to prove that his love for you is pure and genuine. 😍

After all, creating a beautiful relationship doesn’t happen overnight.

You need to work hard for it!

Lastly, is pride. You see, whenever we are hurt, we appear to be as strong and as ready just like everyone else. We try to accept responsibilities when in fact, we are not earning money yet, but simply relying on the allowance given by our parents or relatives. Whenever we are hurt, we want to skip level 1 to be at level 100 ’cause we feel that someone is looking down on us. I tell you, people maybe mean to you, but to be honest, you are hurting because that’s a fact! Instead of wallowing yourself in sorrow, why not use that hurt or pain into a kind of motivation to study and work even harder. To think for your future self and not to go easy on life. Life is such a pain. Teenage life is shorter, so while you are still enjoying your youth, as early as now, start by doing something right. It could be by simply attending classes, submitting school requirements, honing your talent, knowing yourself better, and the like.

One day, all the people who looked down on you will know that they have wronged you. Again, use that pain in creating yourself for something great, rather than choosing to be weak; locking yourself in the room; and or taking a lot of alcohols just to not feel anything. Just to feel that through drinking, you hope that all the hurting will be gone too soon. But nope, the reality is there. It won’t be gone. You just covered it up, so instead of fooling yourself and feeling bad, why not take it as a lesson? Take it into another challenge. Learn to embrace new things ’cause in life, there is nothing permanent. You need to be flexible in every way!

These are some of the things that I like about watching this TV series. I hope and pray that you get the point of this sharing and that is, to accept yourself fully without seeking any validation from others, to reduce and get rid of your own insecurites, to put your guard down and lessen your pride. All of these are connected to mental health. Try to condition your mind in a healthy matter where in, you will be able to see positive things about yourself; that you are not competing with anyone. You are just simply making some improvement for your own self and lastly, you will take that insult as a motivation to prove them wrong. 👊

Now, I would love to hear from you why this Thai TV series is worth watching for the youth? If you’ve watched this series, what scene has strucked you the most and realize that though it is somewhat offensive, it has a point.

Let’s all remember than constructive criticism is different from bashing.

Feel free to comment below and thank you for taking the time to read my blog for today. ❤ God bless! 🙏

Choose Your Own Struggle

You see, blogging is no different from working full-time especially if you are the only one managing your own blog.

The burden is all yours.

The struggle of promoting.

Thinking of what blog post to make.

How you want your website to look like.

It was never easy doing everything alone.

You might ask someone to do other things for you due to other work demands. Unfortunately, no one is willing to work for you without salary or wage. Not unless they are up for some kind of public service. But you see, nothing is permanent. One day they will come to you and sue you for not giving anything in return. In short, if you cannot compensate them, let’s just take things slowly.

Blogging is honestly not about rushing, but rather all about writing that has content and not just making your readers waste their time for nonsense stuff.

Right?

But one thing is for sure!

If you choose a career that is from your own will, it is possible and easy for you to endure the pain of working than pretending to love a job you have no interest with.

Isn’t it true that what makes us happy are the things we desperately want to achieve.

So, I’ll end my post by a question…

What struggle is worth having for you?

Thank you for reading my blog post, RT Peeps and may you have a blessed & productive day ahead.

The Worst Nightmare Of Having Atopic Dermatitis (Eczema)

Hello, Dear I’m 25 years old and had been struggling with this kind of skin problem. For those of you who don’t know about this yet, feel free to click the provided link for further information. And for those who have atopic dermatitis (eczema), I guess we can all I agree that by having this in our skin is the worst nightmare we ever had! For this is bothersome especially at night, where you just want to rest and have enough sleep. Right? But by having this made it more difficult to achieve because we are experiencing some extreme dryness in our skin that appeared to be flaky and feel itchy at the same time.

Few years ago when I was still free from atopic dermatitis or only have a mild eczema, I used to have healthy skin and Cetaphil has been my brand for many years because it is fragrance free! More favorable to me since I have sensitive skin. However, when atopic dermatitis becomes more active, Cetaphil no longer work best on my end. But it is still the best cleansing soap for I have never experienced any itchiness or redness after using this. It is just so sad that this infection cannot be cured by a mere soap. But I remained positive about it. I know, it won’t cure anything, but this product lessens the itchiness and irritation of my skin to unknown triggers. What more if I don’t invest in a better brand, right? I guess, it will be much worser than this.

  Anyway, because of my case I have consulted to a number of dermatologists, but decided to go back to my allergist for I believe…will be able to cure this infection. He was even confident that this is something not be worried about and so I trusted him well enough. Week after week, I saw some improvements. Thank God! But once I have consumed all the prescribed medicines and so the infection starts to reappear. I have realized that none of them really do get rid of my skin’s condition, it just prevents it from becoming worst but it is still there! I honestly don’t even know what really triggers me which forced me to become more vigilant of my surroundings. You know what’s even more tiring?  It is when you can hardly identify the real triggers. Now, I fully understand why they end up giving me tons of list and that is to somehow give me a clue of which might be the cause of my skin irritation.

They even advised me to at least have a balance diet and to regularly moisturize the infected area of my skin. But to tell you honestly, it was a lot of work and everything was just a trial and error thing. At that moment, I was fully convinced that there was no cure for this type of skin problem yet and it was heartbreaking to know for it already spread all over my body. Please do excuse me for I’ll be giving a detailed information about my case.

Atopic dermatitis (eczema) does not only ruin your sleep, but also affects you emotionally.

I have it all over my scalp, ears, arms, legs and even on some private parts of my body! That’s really a horror story for someone who already have a sensitive skin plus has infection. Do you all agree?

Apart from this, I  have been using a product that contains steroids, a topical one to be exact. One is in a liquid form, but the rest are in the form of cream/lotion/ointment. For me, it works like magic! But I will not give you the names of these brands for I am not authorized to give a prescription to you and to anyone and I will take this moment to apologize for not sharing a specific brand of this. But here’s the good news! It can be gone for a few days, but sadly will appear again the moment you’ve lost enough sleep, became stressed, ate too much of dairies and many more!

Anyway, one of my dermatologists and allergist prescribed me that contains steroids. Though it can give you a quick fix, it cannot be used regularly for it has side effects as well. I will not go deeper into this topic to not mislead people since I am not an expert or has a background on this. But you are free to make a research about it, though.

By the way, to help me cope with this kind of struggle, I just simply lessen my stress and strive to have enough sleep despite the fact that it is hard to ignore this condition. I know and I accepted the fact that it will never cure my atopic dermatitis, but at least I am doing something that will not put my health at risk.

Anyhow, I don’t want to sound hyprocite here since I did benefit from using steroids, so I am also giving you the positive sides of it in the best possible way.

Here are some of the benefits that I’ve gained from using steroids for several years already, but discontinue right away once it got treated. Meaning to say, I only use it when it is no longer bearable or manageable. Feel free to check it below!

  • Quick treatment
  • Lessen itchiness after a few minutes
  • Can disappear after a day of application
  • Prevents you from touching or scratching your infected skin

Sounds great, right? Now, you must be thinking of using any brand that contains steroids, but let me tell you this before you do so.

Here’s the real thing, this may be an answer to your sleepless nights and will now let you concentrate on your tasks, but relying too much on this will only make your situation even worst!

Just think it this way, it’s like an antibiotic, the more you use it, the more it becomes less effective, which will force anyone to increase the number of dosage he/she takes. As for the topical treatment with steroids, the regular you apply, efficacy lessens in no time! So in short, a quick fix doesn’t mean you got cured right away. It just means temporarily treated, but will reappear after a few days.

The next thing that I will share with you is the fact that I ignored some of their recommendations or pieces of advice. Few years ago, I was asked by my allergist to get rid of dairies to somehow lessen my skin irritation. I have actually read everything, but never really complied with it. And I don’t know why. I just feel that it is a little bit too much to give up the dairies that I take regularly. As a result of not listening and taking it lightly, I have then suffered far from my expectation.

Fast forward, after going through a lot of painful nights all because of my hardheadedness, I have finally learned my lesson. Yes! Whenever I feel like my atopic dermatitis is getting thicker, becoming red and itchy, that’s a sign for me to stop consuming dairies or to take a deep breath whenever I feel so stressed. Also, to stop whatever I am doing and just sleep when my body is really forcing me to rest.

By the way, who’s addicted to coffee here? Please count me in for I am so in loveeeee with coffee! But too much intake of it really do harm me, especially my skin. It becomes irritated and more sensitive. So, for those who are coffee lovers like me and has atopic dermatitis, please lessen your intake of coffee especially when you start to feel that your skin is becoming inflamed/irritated than it used to.

I know, some of you would ask me why not ditch all dairies? Right? Well, here’s my simple and honest reply, I cannot imagine a life without having sweets to munch or drink on. Chocolates, coffee, donuts, whatever that is really do make me happy especially in difficult times even if it means not actually curing my situation. You see, life is short, so enjoy it while you still can. I just strongly believe that moderation is the answer for this infection and not deprivation. Do you agree with me?

I know, I may be acting strange if I will not tell you that there weren’t days where I feel like giving up, because there is! Everyday of my life is a struggle! Having this isn’t really a joke for I had this skin problem for a couple of years already and I can no longer recall when did it start since a lot of things going on. Especially now, in this time of pandemic where people are constrained to get treated because most hospitals became overwhelmed by a high number of covid patients. In other words, it is also not safe to go to hospital, clinic or to any public places as of the moment.

Enough of lengthy sharing and drama, I am only sharing this for obvious reason and that is to let other people know that atopic dermatitis is not like a simple skin problem. Its complications or effects vary from person to person. And I am here to send my love for those who are also struggling, suffering and even losing hope to have a solution for this infection.

I believe, by simply voicing out my situation could help anyone to understand this infection. Also, by sharing this could give comfort to people that they are never alone. Thus, no one deserve to remain silent with this case or to take this case any less.

Feel free to share the worst experience you’d ever gone through because of this. By sharing, we will be able to give hope to those who are also needing some attention, some support and most of all, some light of encouragement to continue the fight.

It may be hard, but I know for sure that there will be a cure for this, given the fact that our world is becoming more and more advanced. So, while we are waiting for it to come, let’s do our best to be in the best shape! 💪

Keep believing, keep fighting!

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Ever heard of this saying? “Doing Nothing Often Leads To the Very Best of Something”

Hello Fellas, I got this from the 2018 film Christopher Robin. It is just nice to know that such simple saying can create an impact to everyone’s life. It may sound cliché, but honestly it is often neglected by many even myself.

Growing up, I realized how hard it is to balance work, family, relationship and everything in between. Whatever you prioritize, there is this thing called a sense of gratitude. You’ve read it correctly! Admit it, we cannot survive every life’s struggle with no one to lean on and thus, we also cannot just leave them behind after all the care and understanding they have given to us.

Say for example, at work, I am pretty sure that most of us in general will not be able to surpass the hardships of extreme labor without any support system coming from our colleagues or loved ones. What we have achieved and what will be receiving in life is also their achievement for there is really no such thing as being alone for life. You may not have a family but I guess, everyone has that someone in our lives to help us get through it. It may not be by blood, but the connection or support system is there. Not just humans alone, but can also be your pet or plant you used to do a pep talk with. It’s quite weird, but though they are not responding exactly as humans, they are also alive and may somehow help you cope with reality.

Why am I sharing about this stuff?

Simply because I want everyone to remember that having a break doesn’t actually mean doing nothing, but rather creating a way to reconnect with your loved ones or someone who also needs your attention or support. Please do thank them and remind them how blessed you are to have them in your life. It may just be a simple gesture of love, but even small things can rekindle connection or friendship. We humans are wired to communicate and it won’t hurt our lives spending it for someone that also deserves it.

Try to observe your surroundings, maybe you need to water your plant or remove the dirt/dead leaves from them. Maybe your dog/cat needs a haircut or a bath. Or simply need a walk and play with them from time to time. You may also need some time alone to reflect or repent for your shortcomings. This may also be a chance for you to fix your stuff at home. Now, take this opportunity for the betterment of yourself. You might set a date for your loved ones or to whoever you ever wanted to express gratitude with, but failed to do so because of so much stuff on your plate.

Furthermore, also make a habit to cut your routine every once in awhile for there is so much thing in life and that is their presence. Do yourself a favor, make a call to your parents in case there has been an argument that hasn’t been able to solve. Ask for a vacation/sick leave in case your body is telling you to rest or might need a checkup. You may also request for a meetup with someone in case you want to ask for forgiveness. Reconciliation or closure is also a good thing ’cause you are freeing yourself from a heavy heart and hopefully, that will also go the same way for him /her.

In this time of pandemic, that does not mean we are constrained to do something about it. Nothing is ever limited to those who are willing enough to make time for those things you have failed doing so and is now willing to make amends.

On that note, doing nothing often leads to the very best of something because you are taking your time to redirect yourself; to correct what you have done wrong in your life; to appreciate their existence and worth. And most importantly, to realize God’s mercy that in everything we do, He is just there next to us who is always ready to extend his hands whenever we feel like quitting or giving up.

I hope I made you smile today and whatever you may be struggling, we got your back! Kindly leave us a comment below in case you need to voice out something or just want to give a feedback about this post.

Thank you so much for reading my blog post, RT Peeps! God bless and please don’t forget to practice the New Normal Guidelines in this trying time. Keep safe and good luck to do some catch up. 🙂

I Thought of Changing My Direction

Since it’s giving me a headache and stress on thinking of what featured image to post or what video to share in order to convey the purpose of my blog post, I plan of making things simpler and easier today.

After all, it all just serve as a props to me.

Though I strongly believe that visual works better, I guess it would all be useless if your work doesn’t have any substance. Plus, I have a full-time job and it’s hard on my end to create a balance on work, personal obligations and everything in between.

That is all I can say for now.

By the way, please expect to receive my blog post anytime of the day since having a fix schedule of publishing a blog doesn’t work well on me.

In short, we don’t have to stick to our original plan. Just stick to things that will work for you.

Thank you for reading my blog post. God bless and keep safe, RT Peeps!

How Do You Cope With This Whole Quarantine Thing?

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Today, I’m gonna share with you a video which I saw on Facebook for I find this to be as an eye opener to many. I am also spreading this video for the whole world to know. I honestly could relate to it because that’s how I view my life as of the moment.

Maybe we have overlooked all the little things that matter to us and take this life as if we all know what is bound to happen.

Well, we are all wrong. ‘Cause whether we do something or not, we still have no control over the world!

To tell you honestly, when I started working in our family business, I was too scared to get involve; to not know anything; and to fail the expectations of people around me. Most of all, there were a lot of things that I did give up due to work demands. Of course, it’s our own business so it is expected that their children will soon be the one to take over…whether we like it or not.

But right now, even if we are still working for we sell essential products, our time of business operations were shortened and that’s where I get to have some ample time to do the stuff that I failed doing for so long.

As of the moment, I am making use of my time to all the things that I have missed out for roughly 4 years! You read it right. You know, time flies quickly once you got busier that we sometimes fail to chill, relax and enjoy life.

Call me insane or exaggerated, but believe me or not, once you start working you need to give up some other things. Otherwise, you will be doomed! In addition to that, there’s no time for you to just play around or to take these things as lightly as how you want it to be. ‘Cause now, your life is on the line!

You may have a family or friends to lean on, but you should know very well that nothing is permanent in this world. Soon, they will get older and some of your close friends may lost their contacts with you due to their personal commitment as well. Thus, being too dependent to anyone is not something that will help you to grow and mature. You have to do it on your own and just be yourself.

Cause the truth is,

Once you go out and be into the real world, everything needs to be adjusted; needs to be changed. Ready or not, life must go on!

Instead of being pessimistic about this long period of quarantine, why not see this thing as an opportunity to learn new things; to challenge yourself; and to even make time for yourself and loved ones.

Cherish this moment ’cause once this pandemic has ended, at least you’ve done something you need it the most. And that is your whole self!

A lot of times we worry so much that we don’t even realize that we are the ones putting a lot of pressure and stress to our lives.

The ultimate enemy is us for we are the only one who knows ourselves better and this is something we can control of. Well, depending on your willingness to change for a better tomorrow.

Now, I am asking everyone to please do yourself a favor. Change the way you live your whole life. Do something that that you care about the most. Your health, family, dreams, etc. For I strongly believe that…

If you can be better, then you can do something bigger.

Am I correct?

By the way, for someone who doesn’t know me well, I grew up loving the idea of being such a busy person. I love doing anything that I feel doing all for the glory of being good at something. I may be lazy for awhile, but never did I try to do nothing most of the time. For those who were damn busy as hell like me, cheers! We all deserve to have this moment. ❤

No offense meant. I just hope that all of you do get the point of this whole quarantine.

It is not just about staying at home, it is also about doing something for mankind.

And God is simply redirecting us to do something much more worthy of our time.

After this whole quarantine period, I just hope that people will be able to realize that money, power, fame, greed, material possessions, and any other obsessions are not the things that last.

But rather, it is the kindness that we give and share from person to person.

For it leaves a beautiful mark in every heart and mind of people. Whether big or small act of kindness, it still means that you care about the people around. – You care about life!

Now, I encourage all of you to please stay at home most especially if your work is non-essential. Only go out when you need to buy something. But to prevent this from going out too often, try to stock enough essentials and please wear some personal protective equipment (PPE) whenever you are outside. Whether that’s a face mask, face shield, gloves and the like. You may also need to bring a travel size 70% alcohol for preventive measure of catching a virus. But never forget to wash your hands with soap and water regulary as possible. For it is still way better than just rubbing your hands with alcohol. And please practice social distancing with your family even at home. ‘Cause we never know. We honestly can’t tell what will happen next, so it is better if we at least follow all the preventive measures wherever we go or where we are staying at.

Most importantly,

Please don’t forget to pray!

Even if we are doing something for our country and the whole world, praying is something that we should never underestimate. Nonbelievers or believers of Christ are still made by God.

While we are healing as one, hopefully we are also respecting each and everyone.

Thank you for reading my blog post, RT Peeps. 😘 Keep safe everyone and God bless you all! 🙏

By the way, what for you are the greatest things you learn or discover during this time of COVID-19?

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You are not just sharing a piece of information, but you are also giving us an idea on how to enjoy this very moment while beating this coronavirus worldwide. 🌎

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Why Would You Need To Expect Less?

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Nowadays, people are so used to expect a lot from others; from their ambitions; from their status in life and so on and so forth.

Yet, they failed to embrace uncertainties for they already pictured what being successful should look like.

As a result of that, they tried to do more than what is expected them to do. But doing more without a pause or a break will only cause you to feel burnout. So my advice is to not conclude that what did not work for you does not equate to not doing your best. God is simply redirecting you to what you truly deserve.

Have a leap of faith and take one step at a time.

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Valentine’s Day Blues

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Here we go again and again. It’s so hard to pretend that it’s fine or it’s going to be fine.

Valentine’s Day supposed to be a celebration of love, yet so many people fell into idea that it was made for couples alone. It felt as if they are the only ones who are entitled to celebrate and to feel great, while others don’t have one or still not in a state of legal relationship. What’s more depressing is that, we single people tend to lock ourselves at home for we don’t like the idea of being left out or worst, being pitied and bullied on.

For someone like me who grew up being grounded, it’s so hard for me to adjust and to make friends to get along with others. My parents only have the two of us and they cannot afford to lose us. That is why, they are being so protective and sometimes, being paranoid✌ to the point of feeling that you cannot even breathe.

Well, our parents did everything just for us to remain happy and fulfilled. But though I always feel loved and secured, out of the blue, my heart will suddenly feel empty and the feeling of being lost comes next to it. But I have realized that I am feeling this way all because I was raised differently by our parents. I have just thought that, there is so much in life that I hardly relate to, which leads me to grew up being firm and extremely independent. In addition to that, I used to believe that my journey needs to be done alone and that’s fine with me as long as my family will be alive ’til 100 years old or beyond that age; or when I am ready to let them go.

Anyways, whenever I cry secretly, I die ’cause most people never know about it. I decide not to reveal my true emotions for I am sure that they will not understand me, not unless they were raised just the same as mine. You see, we may appear to be well-provided, but along the way, we were always constrained to do something.

I know, I know, that’s very saddening. Right? But though my heart is aching and feel like breaking into pieces, I still try to listen to them whenever possible and understand them that they are just doing it out of pure concern and love for us. As a result of that, I cannot imagine a life without my family.

For obvious reason, in my 25 years of existence, my life has been all about them and losing even one of them makes me want to die first before them.

So, this Valentine’s Day, all I’m asking and praying for is a complete family, ’cause (again) that’s all I’ve got.

How about you? What’s your story? Please comment below.

I believe, everyone has a story to share. Please don’t be shy to drop a comment on my blog or contact me at my business email: contact@findrealtalk.com. Gracias!

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3 Necessities Before You Change Your Last Name To Him

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Settling down means you are taking your life into a big chapter.

And marriage is not something you could throw up once you’ve become fed up of your partner.

‘Cause the truth is…

In marriage, there’s no turning back.

If marriage did not work, you may file a divorce to end your marriage.

But in some other countries like here in the philippines, it is not yet fully been approved.

‘Cause it is said to be that our country is a pro-family.

They believed that, legalizing a divorce in our country would mean encouraging many citizens to have broken families.

Well, that’s their say.

Which is why, the process of annulment (or to void the marriage) takes a lot of time, effort and of course, money.

Nowadays,

People think that marriage was an easy task so long as both individuals are head over heels (or madly deeply in love) with each other.

I know, I am in no position to say this, but let me share with you some of the things you need to consider before settling down.

Aside from having the man of your dreams (e.g. financially stable, single with endearing personalities, etc ).

Getting a stable job.

Being able to find your own self.

Being able to achieve your dreams.

Most of all,

Being physically, emotionally and financially ready…

You need to remember these 3 golden rules before deciding to live with him.

First,

By tradition especially here in the philippines, a man needs to ask a permission from the family of his woman before living together.

Meaning to say, he needs to marry her either through a civil or a church wedding; or can do both.

‘Cause I honestly believe that…

If a man has a high respect to you and to your family,

Legalizing the union must also be his top priority for it is the most important family tradition regardless of religion.

Not only that, it also serves as a blessing from above (God) if both of you will have a legal union.

Second,

The man must be able to buy you a lot (or a land) to prove to the family of his woman that he can be a good provider in the context of marriage.

Not just having the qualities of a family man or a husband material.

On that note, a good provider is the epitome of manliness.

If the man is not capable of providing for the family, it is better to live single.

‘Cause a marriage without sustainability will not survive.

Ladies…

For obvious reason, married life means you are ready enough to create a family of your own at your own house as husband and wife.

In my own perspective, size doesn’t really matter. As long as there’s enough space to start a family of your own, that won’t be an issue.

And lastly,

The most obvious one is of course, a house.

Something we could proudly say that we owned it.

C’mon guys, don’t you think that we have the right to manage our own house the way we want it to be?

Please pardon me for I have to separate the lot from a house.

‘Cause sadly,

Not everyone can easily build you a house compare to buying you a lot.

In most cases,

Men offered you a lot for thinking that they can magically build a house with you in an instant.

Not even realizing that building a house takes time which needs to be taxed and insured (not mandatory but still essential) as well.

Otherwise,

It can be taken away from you and your new family at any moment.

If you have acquired these 3 significant factors, I guess everything else will follow.

What do you think, Ladies?

Anyway, what for you are the things that will make you change your mind in order to settle down?

Please leave a comment below and share it with us your kind of point of view with regards to marriage.

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