Author: Zandra L.

A writer and a manager by accident.

Valentine’s Day Blues

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Here we go again and again. It’s so hard to pretend that it’s fine or it’s going to be fine.

Valentine’s Day supposed to be a celebration of love, yet so many people fell into idea that it was made for couples alone. It felt as if they are the only ones who are entitled to celebrate and to feel great, while others don’t have one or still not in a state of legal relationship. What’s more depressing is that, we single people tend to lock ourselves at home for we don’t like the idea of being left out or worst, being pitied and bullied on.

For someone like me who grew up being grounded, it’s so hard for me to adjust and to make friends to get along with others. My parents only have the two of us and they cannot afford to lose us. That is why, they are being so protective and sometimes, being paranoid✌ to the point of feeling that you cannot even breathe.

Well, our parents did everything just for us to remain happy and fulfilled. But though I always feel loved and secured, out of the blue, my heart will suddenly feel empty and the feeling of being lost comes next to it. But I have realized that I am feeling this way all because I was raised differently by our parents. I have just thought that, there is so much in life that I hardly relate to, which leads me to grew up being firm and extremely independent. In addition to that, I used to believe that my journey needs to be done alone and that’s fine with me as long as my family will be alive ’til 100 years old or beyond that age; or when I am ready to let them go.

Anyways, whenever I cry secretly, I die ’cause most people never know about it. I decide not to reveal my true emotions for I am sure that they will not understand me, not unless they were raised just the same as mine. You see, we may appear to be well-provided, but along the way, we were always constrained to do something.

I know, I know, that’s very saddening. Right? But though my heart is aching and feel like breaking into pieces, I still try to listen to them whenever possible and understand them that they are just doing it out of pure concern and love for us. As a result of that, I cannot imagine a life without my family.

For obvious reason, in my 25 years of existence, my life has been all about them and losing even one of them makes me want to die first before them.

So, this Valentine’s Day, all I’m asking and praying for is a complete family, ’cause (again) that’s all I’ve got.

How about you? What’s your story? Please comment below.

I believe, everyone has a story to share. Please don’t be shy to drop a comment on my blog or contact me at my business email: contact@findrealtalk.com. Gracias!

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3 Necessities Before You Change Your Last Name To Him

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Settling down means you are taking your life into a big chapter.

And marriage is not something you could throw up once you’ve become fed up of your partner.

‘Cause the truth is…

In marriage, there’s no turning back.

If marriage did not work, you may file a divorce to end your marriage.

But in some other countries like here in the philippines, it is not yet fully been approved.

‘Cause it is said to be that our country is a pro-family.

They believed that, legalizing a divorce in our country would mean encouraging many citizens to have broken families.

Well, that’s their say.

Which is why, the process of annulment (or to void the marriage) takes a lot of time, effort and of course, money.

Nowadays,

People think that marriage was an easy task so long as both individuals are head over heels (or madly deeply in love) with each other.

I know, I am in no position to say this, but let me share with you some of the things you need to consider before settling down.

Aside from having the man of your dreams (e.g. financially stable, single with endearing personalities, etc ).

Getting a stable job.

Being able to find your own self.

Being able to achieve your dreams.

Most of all,

Being physically, emotionally and financially ready…

You need to remember these 3 golden rules before deciding to live with him.

First,

By tradition especially here in the philippines, a man needs to ask a permission from the family of his woman before living together.

Meaning to say, he needs to marry her either through a civil or a church wedding; or can do both.

‘Cause I honestly believe that…

If a man has a high respect to you and to your family,

Legalizing the union must also be his top priority for it is the most important family tradition regardless of religion.

Not only that, it also serves as a blessing from above (God) if both of you will have a legal union.

Second,

The man must be able to buy you a lot (or a land) to prove to the family of his woman that he can be a good provider in the context of marriage.

Not just having the qualities of a family man or a husband material.

On that note, a good provider is the epitome of manliness.

If the man is not capable of providing for the family, it is better to live single.

‘Cause a marriage without sustainability will not survive.

Ladies…

For obvious reason, married life means you are ready enough to create a family of your own at your own house as husband and wife.

In my own perspective, size doesn’t really matter. As long as there’s enough space to start a family of your own, that won’t be an issue.

And lastly,

The most obvious one is of course, a house.

Something we could proudly say that we owned it.

C’mon guys, don’t you think that we have the right to manage our own house the way we want it to be?

Please pardon me for I have to separate the lot from a house.

‘Cause sadly,

Not everyone can easily build you a house compare to buying you a lot.

In most cases,

Men offered you a lot for thinking that they can magically build a house with you in an instant.

Not even realizing that building a house takes time which needs to be taxed and insured (not mandatory but still essential) as well.

Otherwise,

It can be taken away from you and your new family at any moment.

If you have acquired these 3 significant factors, I guess everything else will follow.

What do you think, Ladies?

Anyway, what for you are the things that will make you change your mind in order to settle down?

Please leave a comment below and share it with us your kind of point of view with regards to marriage.

Thank you for patiently reading my lengthy post, RT Peeps. God bless!

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Dear Whiner, this is for you!

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I am writing this down to know if you are aware of yourself.

Was it a bit too much to ask for your help or are you gonna be like that who never stops complaining?

Was it really hard for you to do other little stuff?

Every time I only ask a small favor, what I often get is a complain when in fact, I did everything I could just so I won’t be hearing any complain from you.

Whenever I confront you about your sort of laziness and constant complain, you always brushed off my confrontation for thinking that you’re always right and your way of reasoning is always valid.

Just so you know, I had been doing everything in hopes that your mouth will stop babbling. But at the end of the day, once a whiner, always and will be a whiner.

Well, good luck on that. I may be hot-tempered at times, but never did I let myself become a headache to people for being too complaining.

Yes, oftentimes, I am very emotional when it comes to my loved ones for they are my achilles’ heel. But let me point out that I only ask a favor for only a few things and never demand you for everything.

I am hoping that one day, you’ll soon wake up and realize that…

At some point in life, I was right.

Thank you for reading my lengthy post, RT Peeps! Sorry for expressing my anger here. It just feel toxic to keep it to yourself and act like as if you are numb.

How about you, Fellas? Will you remain silent whenever you encounter someone who habitually complain? How do you approach him/her? Is it directly or you drop signs that what he /she is doing was completely wrong.

Please leave a comment and let’s pray together that this kind of behavior will soon end. 🙏

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It’s Not About The Price Tag

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Though the price is a big factor for it determines the quality of a certain thing, yet at the end of the day…still it is the effort that counts!

Whether it’s a bag, a pair of shoes, a V-neck T-shirt, a jewelry, and the like, there’s no better feeling of having people who extend their hands just to let you know that you are important to them.

I am not saying, you should be more open to accept any kinds of gift, most especially to strangers…for it is not a hundred percent safe! What I am just saying is, to at least learn to appreciate them. I know, some gifts may be cheaper, but it also gives you the same feeling just like any other gifts. And that is, being able to put a smile on your face.

I remember, whenever I receive a gift from people, I often remind myself that I should be more thankful to them for they spare some of their money just to make me happy.

They shared their blessings to us, so why can’t we have an eye that is accepting enough to give value even to those that are cheaper.

And lastly, why can’t we have an eye that sees the real value of sharing?

I guess, all it takes is to get to know the person well before giving a gift.

Simply because, some women prefer a unisex stuff like a plain T-shirt in a camouflage jeans. And some are way too girly, like wearing a pink little dress in a cute dolly shoes.

So I guess, people will appreciate it more if you at least match it with their personality. 💗

That’s why, the ultimate secret in making a person happy is not really about the price tag, but (again) the effort in choosing and getting the right stuff for them.

You know what, few months ago, I remember having a difficulty on what to give on my parents’ birthday for they almost have everything. So, why would I still need to make an effort. Right?

But I came to realize that regardless of life’s status, people are all the same. For they never fail to smile whenever they are rewarded with any kinds of gift, most especially if it can be a great help for them.

How about you? Do you think more of what kind of gift a person deserves to receive or just for the sake of showing off that you have loads of money on your pocket?

Feel free to listen to Jessie J’s song, “Price Tag“. That was already an old song, but it is still a gold for me. Anyway, the song tells us that money can’t really buy happiness. Only for a short period of time.

And that’s it! Please share your thoughts with us and let’s spread kindness to each and everyone. Thank you, RT Peeps for reading my lengthy post. God bless!

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Life is a Journey. Not a Marathon.

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When I started blogging, I thought it was easier to earn cash for you could do it without spending much time.

But I have come to realize that for you to monetize your blog, you have to build a community. You have to earn their trust first. You have to crawl as hard as possible and not to walk fast. ‘Cause again, life is a journey…a continuous progess to make. And not a marathon that just because you have something to say, you can post it right away.

Blogging takes time, takes effort for it to grow. So, if you are in a situation where in, you really don’t know what’s going on in your life, might as well take a break.

I guess, this is one of the short blog posts that I will be sharing with you all. But I hope you get something from it.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. God bless!

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New Year Means New Perspective!

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Hello, everyone! I’m really sorry for not being active lately. My full-time job became so hectic, which made me fail to fulfill my part-time job as a blogger.

Anyhow, I want you all to know that I am not chinese, but my family have acquired some chinese tradition.

I guess, there’s nothing wrong in believing in good luck by performing some practices like wearing some charms, placing the objects from the right position or even offering the necessary food.

Whatever that is, there’s no harm in trying, isn’t it?

Before we start, I also want you to know that adapting some kind of practices from different people isn’t a problem as long as you don’t forget your own root.

Appreciating and even applying others’ practices are not sinful, just know that whatever you apply to your life will only yield good result which means good life, good treatment to people and most of all…good practices.

Are you still here with me?

The following are the things that are new to our practices. Just to be clear, we do not own whatever practices we applied. But we encourage everyone to change their perspective into a good direction, meaning good mindset for success all boils down to having good character.

Before we celebrate New Year, I helped my parent to prepare different sets of play money, which according to her will attract more earnings in the coming year. We placed it on a transparent plastic. Sealed it. Placed a ribbon on it and hang it to our window each floor.
To welcome our New Year, we are adviced to take a bath with rose petals and a gem that was soaked in water. This is new to us and I guess, it’s quite cool!
And who would ever want to miss this red envelope that has a money inside? Everyone wants to have a money, most especially when it is the beginning of the year. They believed that having cash on your pocket would mean having money all throughout the year. But of course, with hardwork and some discipline on where to place and when to use money is still the key to succeed.
Looking back on my younger years, I used to believe that New Year needs to be extravagant where in, there should be a lot of preparation to make. But as I grew older, I came to realize that New Year simply mean…changing perspective. Celebrating New Year can be simpler, less complicated, and no worries at all. You can wear whatever you feel like. Again, it is still in the mindset of people which will truly bring good luck. The practices, positioning of objects, and even the food you offered are just some of the ways to help you attract good vibe.

So, what about you? What do you think of New Year? Does it excites you? Feel free to share with us your practices each time you and your family celebrate New Year. Thank you for reading my blog post and Happy New Year to all. Hoping for more blessings and good karma to all of you.

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Books’ Review: Part 2

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Here’s another three books that I already been reviewed.

Go, check it out!

Book Review No. 4
Book Review No. 5
Book Review No. 6

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Thank You So Much, RT Peeps!

Kindly give us a comment regarding books’ review.

God bless!

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