How to beat depression on a holiday?

Hello, RT Peeps! I hope all of you are having a great time with your family today since it’s a special celebration of the birth of Christ.

May you all have a joyful Christmas and I hope to give a light to someone who’s far away from home due to pandemic, work commitments, and any other circumstances.

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2020 has been the most painful year for all of us because of Covid-19 pandemic, Beirut explosions, Super Typhoon and many more.

People in general is currently dealing with depression today because some had lost their loved ones. Some even became homeless due to Beirut explosions or Super typhoon. While others end up being jobless due to Covid-19 which lead people to feel lost, empty, and depressed for there is nothing more that they could do, but to accept it.

Despite the fact that covid-19 vaccine is becoming available all across the world, still it would probably take a couple of years for us to recover from all the disasters.

To be honest, when I was still a little girl I frequently think of suicide as if it is the best solution that I could ever have.

Today is Friday and I am about to discuss how depression affects every person and being suicidal is one of the most common factors of depression.

Even though we know to ourselves that the best solution is to face it for us to conquer our fear…sadly we refrain from giving it another try. You see, not everyday we have enough courage to stand on our own. That is why we still need a support system for us to win over depression.

In most common cases, when people are depressed we tend to isolate ourselves from others. We even skip meals. We also often make unhealthy decisions for ourselves that is not helping at all. We even try to escape from feeling low and helpless. However, we failed in overcoming our fears and doubts that made us trapped or stuck in that situation. As a result of that, we now lost the courage to search for an escape and perceive things negatively as if it is unchangeable.

Whoever may be reading this and is currently dealing with depression today…may this blog helps you in any possible way.

These are just some of the things that I know and I often do in order to beat depression. Feel free to add more!

Simple and practical ways to conquer depression especially on a holiday:

Pray

I begun to pray the holy rosary after Super typhoon “Rolly” landed in Catanduanes last November 1, 2020 leaving most people with no homes. Pandemic isn’t over yet and here were are facing another calamity. Too much to handle that I ask God to give me more wisdom and strength to carry on in life.

I know, this may be a simple routine of praying, but with consistent effort could somehow strengthen our faith in Christ.

There are only 2 things that might happen. First, either you understand your problem or second, you gain some strength in dealing with your problems. Whatever it may be, for sure it would yield some good results.

As what Kelly Clarkson’s song says, What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger

If you are depressed and commiting suicide is the only option you are looking forward to, why not seek God’s help?

After all, praying is not for the weak, but for the strong person to admit that he or she is needing some guidance.

Sleep

When everything else is too much to handle, I just choose to sleep rather than be awake ’til midnight. Being awake when everyone else is sleeping invites you into doing something dangerous like jumping off the roof; slashing your wrist with any sharp object; bumping your head on the wall ’til it hurts, etc. So for me to stop entertaining any negative thoughts, I just force myself to sleep.

In addition to that, sleeping helps us to think more clearly. When you had enough sleep, your mind and body are in a good state which helps you to make a quick and hopefully a better decision.

So if you are wondering if there are still better days to come, just hold on tight and trust the Lord with all your heart. Whatever you may be going through today is just a stepping stone to find meaning in your life.

Just think of it this way…if life would be too easy, then there is nothing more better days to look forward to. Life would eventually becomes dull and boring without the existence of problems.

You may live in comfort, but find no meaning or purpose in life. And I bet, that is more tragic to hear than having problems like the rest.

Vitamins

I don’t know if it is something psychological, but every time I take vitamins it often made me feel better. There is probably a particular substance which helps me to feel more relaxed and happier.

Upon research, there are really an existing vitamins for depression. Please check the link provided for it better explains what specific vitamins that can help us improve our mind condition.

Anyway, you are free to choose whether to take vitamins or consume real fruits. Eating something sweets also help you to feel better, just don’t overdo it or your depression could get worsen.

One article on healthline.com, The Connection Between Sugar and Depression clearly explains why we should not depend too much on sweets. So better take everything moderately.

Music

It is indeed true that through listening to beautiful melodies give us comfort which helps us to think less of our problems. Listening to instruments is a good choice, too.

Music can even uplift our spirit and may help us in actually moving on from a failed relationship, career, or a dream.

I remember when someone broke my heart, I used to listen to Camila Cabello’s song “Consequences” and just by simply listening to its beat and its lyrics, it really do help me cope from a failed relationship for it enables me to release my emotions with ease.

I highly suggest to choose a song that suits you well. Select a song that is similar to what you are currently going through ’cause that way, you’ll know that you are not the only one who’s experiencing it.

Besides, artists won’t be able to compose a song or sing it with feelings if they haven’t been there. Each and everyone of us go through that phase. We just assumed that our problems are absolutely unique, but it do happen to others a well. We are just completely unaware of it.

Apart from that, what I love about music is the fact that it could change our mood in an instant. Every time you feel bad about anything, remind yourself that music is something we could easily turn to.

And for those who had lost whatever and whoever that is important to them…music may not be the answer to our problems, but it is a way to release whatever hard feelings we may be going through.

As what I learned from “Burnout” book of Emily & Amelia Nagoski, you have to complete the stress cycle.

A lot of people is experiencing an extreme stress or sadness which leads them to end their lives all because of failing to open up.

Taking all the problems from themselves alone isn’t a healthy idea because once they are gone on earth, their problems remain unsolved and they were only able to escape from it.

So for you to complete the stress cycle, you have to feel the pain and don’t cover it by pretending to people or even to yourself that you are totally okay.

You’re not okay and letting yourself to feel the pain or the hurt is also a way to heal from it. That is why there’s a saying that, “Crying is good for the soul” because you were able to release whatever you are feeling inside.

Keeping it would just deepen the pain and would prevent you from fixing it or getting it healed, so start by being honest with yourself and learn from it.

Watch

Same thing with music, this kind of activity helps you to cope with our pain or loss.

Watching anything is also a good outlet to be away from whatever we are going through today.

I believe, visuals are one of the most effective tools we can use to teach ourselves from accepting all the good and bad experiences and recognizing the purpose of it.

Probably God is teaching us to be strong, patient and to deepen our own understanding for whatever problems we may be dealing with.

Every time I got depressed, I used to watch series and end up binge watching whatever that intrigues me or find it interesting. Aside from that, it occupies our mind to a new knowledge, learning, and experience which is something beneficial to us, humans.

So do yourself a favor, find something to watch that can help you deal with depression today.

To be honest, we are very much fortunate ’cause everything is already at the tip of our fingers. It would only depend on how will we use our downtime.

I highly recommend, “The Queen’s Gambit”. It’s a limited series on Netflix.

See how she was able to overcome herself from being addicted to pills. All along, she thought that pills is the answer to help her concentrate from solving chess, but truly not. Because her talent and dedication in winning for the game of chess is already enough.

She was just blinded by the idea that pills is everything that she only have…when in fact, there are a lot of people who cares and worries for her.

She was also blinded by the idea of being unworthy ’cause her own biological mother left her. So what expects her to gain an unconditional love from others. It was (again) a limited series and I hope you mind watching it.

But for anyone who’s underage, I suggest to watch Jingle Jangle: A Christmas Journey movie which I recently post. This talks about regaining back your confidence from yourself.

Read

I already mentioned many times that I am suicidal that is why, I became so much fond of reading. This is not only for the sake of enriching my english vocabulary, but for the mind to keep busy. This has been my escape to all my frustrations in life. Whenever I read, it felt like I already travelled the world.

When you discover and learn new things, it broadens your horizon. Despite the fact I am suicidal, I begun to think that if I put an end on my life…then all my efforts in becoming great will become wasted.

Challenge yourself to read. This mental exercise will nourish us to make a mature and better decisions for our great future. So, let’s give it a try.

Write

As what people often say, you are a great writer whenever you are hurt, disappointed, depressed, frustrated, and the like.

Simply because writing gives you a release of emotion and the freedom to express whatever you feel.

The reason why I chose blogging is because I used to write down all my experiences, the good and the bad.

When you blog, you are now sharing it with people and oftentimes, we don’t want others to correct or judge our own mistakes. We simply want ourselves to be heard by anyone and that’s more than enough.

It is still up to us what to do with our own lives. That’s why there’s a phrase “feelings for feelings” which I learned from one of my business seminars I attended to. It simply means understanding the shoe of others or humbly empathizing with them.

If you are not fond of reading and you want some other outlet to release what you are feeling inside, then maybe this is now the right time to find the essence of writing. If you are not comfortable from sharing it to anyone, it is better to write it down and also jot down the solutions to be made in order to overcome depression.

Eat

We are a good eater when we are going through something ’cause we needed the energy to suppress not only hunger, but stress as well. Unfortunately, people tend to eat more than the expected consumption of food and that’s called emotional or stress eating.

Whenever I am stressed out, I tend to eat more. And the moment I realize it, I need to encourage myself to eat at the right time.

If we often deprive ourselves from food, more often than not, we will end up to overeat.

Make sure to eat right on time to prevent you from indulging yourself from overeating.

For those who are heartbroken or far away from home this Christmas, I suggest to monitor what you eat. Not only that it might put a harm to your health, but would make you more depressed if you don’t pay attention to what you eat.

Choose food to eat that is light and healthy. Gaining weight will only add more to your stress, not unless you don’t care much about your body shape or figure.

But again, this not about looking good, but mostly feeling good about yourself inside.

Drink

Humans used to consume water everyday because that is a necessity to our body. But not all drinks promote the same benefits.

Water is expected to have zero calories and to cleanse our body.

If you’re being depressed due to weight gain, then drinking green or black tea would somehow help.

If you’re having an insomia, drinking a glass of camomile may somehow improve your sleeping habits and prevent us from overthinking.

If you want to have a good scent of drink, serve yourself a glass of infused pure peppermint. You’ll enjoy it’s minty smell and so with its taste.

Why am I recommending something to drink? Simple. I want people to try something else to drink.

It maybe a just drink, but each of them has a special purpose which can contribute to a healthy lifestyle.

But coffee & wine are my most favorite drinks whenever I am depressed or stressed out. Both of them promotes good health, too so long as you drink it in moderation.

And some prefer to drink hard liquors to forget about their problems even for just a day and you are free to try it, just don’t abuse yourself. But it’s a “No” for minors.

Drinking is also like eating. You need to take something in order for you to relieve stress. Whatever drink you prefer, free feel to choose just be aware of it’s side effects.

So just drink and not overdrink!

Chores

Ugh! The most awful thing to do is chores, but it is also the most rewarding thing to do.

Whenever you feel that everything is not falling into places, the most simple thing to do is to declutter. Chores isn’t about cleaning, but also getting rid of your old stuff. Things that have no more value to you.

It’s time to share your unused things with others for your area to be spacious; able to breathe and relax.

Messy surroundings will only add more stress to you and by simply doing this simple step would help you to concentrate more.

If you are not fond of doing chores, then look around if you are not bothered by the same vibe. Changing also the position of your stuff could help in de-stressing as well.

Some do chores just to redocorate the whole room for them to change its vibe and for them to attract more positive elements.

Whatever you plan to do with your room or your house, just know that what you are doing is for the sake of keeping your mind away from all the negative energy that you’re getting from stress, anxiety, and the like.

So ladies and gentlemen, do not underestimate the importance of chores.

Thank me later!

Outdoors

There are a lot of things you need to be thankful for ’cause it is free. Look at the sunshine. Go out for a walk or run a marathon. Whatever outdoor activity that you’re interested in will be worth it.

I would like to take note that going outside doesn’t really mean going on a trip. Since it is still pandemic we are constrained to go outside, but we are not limited to ideas.

If your house has a roof, you can simply stand still and let your body receive the heat of the sunlight. You can do some stretching to warm up your body.

If you have a playground or a garden, then you can simply water the plant or play with your pet if ever you have one.

Outdoor doesn’t mean you have to travel far. A lot of times we just need to recharge and change our cycle especially our surroundings to be able to cope with our depression.

Socialize

Oh c’mon! Even though some of you are introvert, you still need to mingle with other people. I am not encouraging anyone to talk with strangers, but I am asking you to communicate with others.

Oftentimes, we got depressed simply because we thought that we are the only one who’s having a difficulty in life.

When we socialize with others most especially our loved ones, we’ll know that all of us have problems and you’re not alone all along.

Voicing out your struggles to your confidant helps you to release the weight you are feeling inside and when it gradually release all the heaviness a person is carrying, it would eventually create a relief which is a good thing to everyone’s health.

Exercise

This kind of activity can also be done at home. There are a lot of workouts over the internet. You can choose a cardio or a strength training. The type of workout would only depend on your goals.

Be sure to do some warm ups, cool downs before and after workout. If you don’t have a trainer, you can start by doing little reps to condition your body.

Please remember that we are not the same, so only do some exercises that you can only bear.

Exercise helps a lot to de-stress and if you do this regulary, dealing with depression would somehow be lessened. Not only that it clears your mind and relaxes your body, but daily workout is proven to promote wellness.

Consult

If you are really having a hard time to open up your problems even to your family, then I must say that you need to consult yourself from a health professionals such as Psychiatrist.

This is not only for the crazy people out there, but to anyone who currently has mental, emotional, or behavioral problems.

They may prescribe a medicine that may be beneficial to your emotional condition.

A lot of times we are in denial to admit that we don’t need to seek help ’cause we feel that nobody would want to listen, so why not solve it on our own. Right?

But the reason why we are becoming more depressed is because we are not letting it out. Instead of opening up, we are putting a wall to others which prevents them from being able to be of a help to us.

Of course, consulting to experts need courage and the ball is all yours.

The very first person to know if someone needs some counseling is yourself. I know it may cost some money, but it’s gonna be worth it.

Call

This is for anyone who’s needing an immediate help.

Call the suicide hotline whenever possible.

Depression isn’t a joke and so is your life.

You matter and to anyone who’s losing now the faith in Christ must acknowledge that he/she needs guidance or support from someone.

Do it today and I assure you, your life is not a waste. Keep reminding yourself that whatever you are feeling today is just temporary and for that, I thank you for minding to read my blog post for today.

By the way, I’ve posted a lot that is related to my topic today.

Feel free to check it out if you need something more to read.

Motivational Quotes From Jingle Jangle

Optimism is a decision, not a trait.

Why do people commit suicide?

Deep and profound!

How is your day going?

How Do You Cope With This Whole Quarantine Thing?

Once again, thank you and God bless!

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How is your day going?

I know, it must be hard for you seeing a lot of cruelty and suffering all around the world. There’s racism, pandemic, and a lot of killings. What had just happened to the world? This year 2020 had suffered so much that it is hard to take.

Do you all agree?

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In this time of pandemic, many were still unable to see their family because they were trapped in lockdown. Different means of transportation have been suspended due to COVID-19.

Rape, child abuse, suicide, corruption, and the like continue to increase and so are making illegal drugs. Some were even forced to do it just for them to put food on the table ’cause globally we are on crisis.

It is hard to see people losing their job that is dear to them because most business establishments, regardless of size can no longer afford to give any compensations to their workers due to long closure of operations.

As for business owners, it must be hard for you dealing millions or even billions of loses in the market.

For the families who have lost their loved ones because they are the frontliners who were willing and dedicated enough in saving other people’s life, I sincerely empathize with you.

Those people who are single and a solo parent, it must be hard on your part taking all the burden and even the risk you take just to be able to support your child.

Poor became poorer due to the unfair treatment of society.

Those who are planning to go on trips as a way to destress after working tirelessly, but were trapped in their own houses to keep themselves and their family safe.

Those animals who are also suffering from hunger just like humans ’cause everyone is in short on budget and some have nothing left on their pocket and their loans have just increased.

And just like jeepney drivers, their only hope is from donations of strangers.

Those who are landlords, it must also be hard on your part not being able to receive any payment on time from your tenant because they have no work for several months. And the same struggle goes to other companies that provide electricity and water.

And lastly, those people that were able to survive from COVID-19. I know your health have been greatly affected by this virus and therefore, recovery wasn’t really easy as it seems.

Though, some of you have already recovered from covid-19, I know that you are still in pain and in the process of healing. Unfortunately, some people cannot understand or get what you are going through and so they have no plans in taking this virus seriously, not unless they too catch it by themselves.

Countless of people didn’t care to take this pandemic seriously.

Life is precious!

But for others? It felt like life was just a joke!

These people are the selfish and the coldhearted ones.

Know that all of us were suffering in this trying time, so I am praying and hoping that more people would start to cooperate and do their part as well.

The only thing that I could say to everyone is to please hold on tight. Believe in Christ and have faith. Christian or not, know that in the eyes of God we are all equal and the same.

Some may not call Him by his name and that’s alright ’cause we were born in different parts of the world.

But whether you believe it or not,

He saw all the sufferings. He knew from the very beginning that we are in pain!

This pandemic will soon come to an end and hopefully, whatever lessons we had learned and are continuously learning, may we take it from the heart so we will never forget it.

Again, cling on to God and may we willingly open our eyes and take our time to see the positive purpose of this struggle.

Most importantly, may we also have the ear to listen earnestly to God’s wonderful message and lastly, a mouth that is willing to speak nothing but the whole truth!

By writing this post, may we be reminded by the fact that some were lucky to beat this virus, but some were not. May we never forget to pray for the people that weren’t really ready to die, but death had just happened shortly and unexpectedly.

May we also pray for the bereaved families to be able to find light and comfort that they need in this darkest moment of their life.

Praying and hoping for the departed souls to find peace and happiness in the paradise of Christ.

To conclude, may we have the courage to trust God all the way and the attitude to know the made up stories from not.


How are you doing, Folks?

What have you learned in this time of pandemic that you are confident to share with us?

Feel free to share what’s on your mind and thank you for reading my lengthy post.

God bless!

A Star Is Born

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Many months ago, I watched this film and the reason why I include this on my blog is because…

It clearly shows the real struggle of being an artist.

Whenever they are on stage, it often creates an anxiety to them.

No wonder, most of them had led themselves into taking drugs and becoming more dependent on alcohols im order to cover up their depression.

It’s a kind of high and low experience ’cause you never know what will be the reaction of people.

Some may cheer for you no matter what and some may boo you for making even the slightest mistake.

When the crowd gets loud and wild, the feeling was more like taking ectasy, a kind of drug where you’ll feel like you’ve already reached the pinnacle of your life.

But when the crowd gets disappointed, be ready enough what to be thrown at you. Abruptly, you’ll feel as if it was the worst nightmare you’ve ever had.

Thus, the film also portrays how challenging and depressing it is to be an artist.

Not to mention, you must compete with the younger generations as well. Otherwise, you’ll be left behind.

No matter how you adore your craft, you still need to explore and expose yourself to other things for you to improve and not to get stale in the entertainment industry.

Business is business and so is your talent, which is why, it gets even more harder to keep that job for it changes rapidly.

What’s trending right now, may no longer be impactful in the future. For this reason, you are expected to try someting else; something new and fresh.

That’s how crucial their job is…where fame doesn’t last long, not even money.

So, how about you? What are you planning to do with your life to make it worthwhile?

Please comment below.

Gracias!


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Silent Scream

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When you want to say something, but you decided to shut your mouth ’cause you have nothing good to say.

When you became so used to hiding your feelings ’cause you were always misunderstood before they console you.

I felt that too often.

I also feel that I have this worst enemy in me that I can only solve by myself.

I am physically strong, yet too emotionally weak.

I have several tendencies to commit suicide.

But kept reminding myself that I still have many things to experience before ending my life.

This is for the people who cannot voice out.

This is not for the weak, this is just for the people who became fed up in trying to prove one’s worth.

There are some moments, well most of the time I really don’t open up.

I just don’t feel comfortable enough to share.

I may share a part of it. But not every detail.

There are some stuffs you have to keep it to yourself ’cause not everyone are a good listener.

Not everyone is understanding.

Not everyone is like you.

I am writing this ’cause whoever is planning to commit suicide, you are not alone.

‘Cause I am just like anybody else who can be a worst enemy to oneself.

When something or someone pissed me off, I try to limit my response.

I try to appear that I am not hurt.

I try to act okay.

But the truth is, the more I try to hide it, the more painful it becomes.

Sometimes, it is better to talk with strangers ’cause what’s more important is that…you were able to let it out.

I am voicing out here ’cause there are things that I cannot open up to others.

Some are way too jugdmental.

Some don’t have the heart to be understanding.

Some wouldn’t do any help to you.

So, why not share it here? Only people who can understand and relate to me can leave a comment.

That’s all.


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