As time goes by, it is now easier to earn money in this modern generation because of the help of social media.
However, just because someone is already earning doesn’t necessarily mean there’s no need to delay one’s desire.
We are all created equal and the same. We only became separated with each other because of our current status in life.
But the truth is, nobody lives in a perfect world. Everyone has problems and no one is ever been exempted in that situation.
Without further ado, let’s discuss and enumerate what makes the delay truly worth the wait!
Since there’s a lot to mention, I’ll be focusing only on 3 factors.
Peace Of Mind
First of all, when you delay something it gives you peace of mind. Simply because you are not stuck in situation where in, you are still not capable of resolving problems on your own.
Say for example, becoming a mother at the age of 13 is not an easy role. And in general, most teenage moms often ask an assistance either from their family, relatives or to whom they could at least get a support or guidance.
Second is the fact that you delay things give you an ample time to make healthy and better decisions.
As what I remembered and learned from Netflix’s Documentary Film, “The Minimalist” being simple is hard to achieve compared to being easy.
That’s because being easy means you just go with the flow. Whereas, being simple requires a lot of planning and hard work and that’s similar in making life choices.
It’s way easier to follow the norm than to plan things on your own.
But I want to tell you that once you delay your desire…you are not only making your life free from any trauma or stress, but you are reducing the probability of facing such difficulty in life.
Getting pregnant at the age of 13 is not and will never be a wise decision to make.
Not only that you are underage, but that can still be considered as child sexual abuse even though it is not by force and with your consent.
Simply because you are still young and innocent which means that you are prone to being gullible and vulnerable.
Whoever is reading this that is still a minor, I hope and pray that there is someone who will look after you even if you already reached your legal age.
So many people make unwise decisions in life because of the lack of support from their parents or guardians.
One thing I’ve learned from Mom is the fact that I am curious doesn’t mean I have to try it. Experience is not always the best teacher. If it could be prevented, then it could lead to a positive outcome such as by graduating on time, be able to focus on your growth first, and lastly being being able to savor whatever you currently have today.
Last but not the least, when you delay what you desire prepares you enough for greater responsibility in the future.
People will always have problems. However, better things happen to those who delay things because not only that they mature over time, but they become more equipped in solving problems on their own.
They are not just physically, mentally, and socially prepared, but they, too are now spiritually and financially prepared.
Whatever life throws at them, they are now strong and can endure the pain of hardships in life.
Money is not really the cause of evil. If use wisely, it can be a solution to anyone’s problem.
Now, let me ask you a question.
Are you the type of person who delays gratification or consume whatever resources you have right now?
Say for example, instead of saving money for your business, you spend all your money in building a house.
Well, there is nothing wrong in owning a house, however you don’t earn from it. Not unless you both have enough passive and active income to sustain it.
Whereas, owning a business helps you to cover your rent expense, pay for electricity and water bill, and so on and so forth.
Similar to becoming a Mom, it is better to delay the baby first. Rather than having a baby you are not yet ready to shoulder responsibilities with.
So, can you now delay gratification or you still haven’t change your mind?
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Hello, guys! I know most of you are so excited for the upcoming Valentine’s Day this year 2021. Unfortunately, mastering the art of confidence is still hard to achieve even up to this day.
And this is what most women dare to bring off in order to look astonishing in the eyes of a man.
But before anything else, I would like to give you a heads-up that I am not a Love Guru on this field. I just want to help people, so let’s just safely say that I gained countless of lessons from personal experiences; hearing stories from different sets of people; watching televisions and movies; reading books and so much more.
Once combined, it creates a collection of information.
Isn’t that great?
I hope all of you are having a quality time with your loved ones today since this is a Sunday blog post.
In this time and age where it is already easy to express feelings, still many of us are having a hard time to get the man of our dreams.
This topic has nothing to do with flirt, blind date, hook-up, and the like. This is something that most women have underestimated and overlooked.
If your utmost intention is to find love; get into a man’s heart; and or maintain a relationship…
Then, the most basic and vital thing to do is self-acceptance.
Accept that we are not a perfect being. We don’t have a perfect body. We don’t have a perfect face. Nor are we perfect for any men.
By majority, men prefer natural beauty over the fake one. But due to the influence of media, women feel that something is wrong with them that needs to be fixed, so they allow themselves to undergo plastic surgery. But this is only for those who can afford to.
In relation to that, a lot of women put a lot of concealers for them to hide all the scars, marks, etc. All unpleasant areas have been kept hidden for as long as they could.
Women try to cover it in the hopes that the probability of an acceptance from a man would be high.
Not only that, they made sure that they are perfectly fit, attractive, and sexy which results them to skip meals and starve themselves to death in fear that if men find out their natural figure, it would be a disappointment to them.
Since women are emotional beings, we often have a lot of insecurities to ourselves.
Without a man in our lives feel like we are incomplete, so for us to prevent that from happening to our lives…
We go out and chase the man that we adore!
And because some women cannot wait any much longer, we even adjust our interests in line with men.
You know, just to get an immediate attention and hopefully, would somehow get the affection women have been longing and dying for.
This is absolutely alarming for they forced themselves to change not for the betterment of one’s being, but only to please a man.
I know, I get the idea of waiting too much. I get the frustration that no other good man might come along, so we’ll only stick to someone whom we barely even know.
It is better to be that way than to be single for the rest of our lives.
The common misconception of most women even in the present time.
It’s like we are still stuck on the 18th century where marriage is kinda big deal to us.
There’s one scene in Pride and Prejudice where a woman immediately accepts the offer of marriage in fear of ending up alone and becoming only a spinster.
She’s already 27, no money and home. She’s becoming ashamed of herself still living with parents. So she asked her friend, Elizabeth not to judge her decision for she doesn’t know what else to do with her life.
Sadly, we still have that feeling of being inadequate.
Men don’t want insecure women around. They want someone who are confident enough to admit that they are not perfect and they are fine with it. They accept it and is using their imperfections to make an awareness to other women that there’s nothing wrong with all our imperfections.
Men want to see someone who is positive and has a healthy way of improving herself rather than feeling that some needs to get fixed!
When you can accept yourself, the more man is capable of loving you.
If you cannot accept yourself, any man would feel that he cannot make you happy and satisfy for the rest of your life.
Men hate a pessimistic one!
Don’t get me wrong, it is normal for us to cry and share all the kinds of drama in life. But let us not forget that men are humans, too. They also need love, affection, and support.
If you tend to speak about yourself all the time and you never allow any man to open up to you, there’s higher probability that this man will find someone who can also listen to his own stories, problems, or whatsoever.
We often assumed that all men are strong and emotionless. Truth is, they only show their true colors to someone they are comfortable with; someone they knew who can also console them.
If you want to have a strong relationship, you should learn to give a man his own spot. Try to ask him about how was his day? Or if you already know that he has been going through something, try to reach out to him and let him know that you are willing to listen whatever that is bothering him.
Assure him that you can be there, maybe not physically present all the time. But mentally you are there and you are a ready to listen to him with an ear of heart. No judgment or any pieces of unsolicited advice. Only give advice when he dare to ask you about something.
A lot of times we thought that giving a man an advice would solve the issue, but it’s not. Not everything will work out for everyone. Just give him space when he asks for it, but please be there when he needed you the most.
But here’s what you need to keep in mind...
Don’t go to any men you know who are already afraid of commitment. That would be a problem and yup, another problem.
Don’t also go near to someone who’s controlling and has no respect to you and to others. Choose only the man you are comfortable with.
Though we are desperately in search for love, doesn’t mean we can do that to all men. Let us not forget that not all men are of the same kind.
I know things really get rough and exhausted, especially these days where we live in a world that the concept of love needs to come with lust first. That’s why some women allow themselves to cohabitate with any man just to prove her love for him and here comes the big fact!
Just because you gave in to him doesn’t necessarily mean that he would do the same for you.
I am not generalizing that all men are like that. But sadly, once they easily get you, there’s higher tendency that most men will become bored to you. You know why?
Because there’s no more thrill in the relationship or whatever connection you have with him. Once men are no longer challenged, they tend to walk away and find new sets of women that are more interesting than you.
So my only advice is…
Never give all your love away. Always keep something for yourself.
I believe that there are still decent men out there who can offer us genuine love and will completely accept us for who and what we really are.
A guy who is willing to join us whenever we need to get rid of something; help us change only what is necessary. However, the right guy will only come to us only if we are also willing to wait for him to arrive.
We may be also forgetting that men think differently than us. That’s a common problem to us, women. We often conclude that if the man or our boyfriend truly loves us, he should know better on what we want in life. Ugh! Nope! Men are not fortune tellers who know what’s gonna happen. So we should better lower our pride and be confident enough in becoming vocal about our desires.
And stop being a nagger like it is always his fault for being clueless.
Men hate women who’s acting like a brat all the time.
That is too much to handle for them. What worst is that, you could provoke him into doing something he is actually not used to.
Spur of the moment action would be like offensive words against you, spanking or yelling. Those actions may have been avoided if you correct your tone of voice, calm down and never provoke him.
So if you want to have a romantic date, then say what your date should look like. Describe the place precisely. What motif do you expect to see?
Something like that would avoid arguments and who knows, by simply maintaining a healthy conversation with him would make this man want you more!
You know why?
Because you were very calm and know exactly what you want. Having that kind of personality is a plus point to a man.
Just to clarify, you are not being demanding. You are just simply suggesting and that’s different. Okay?
Rather than to be disappointed and broken because the date didn’t go according to what you imagine it to be, might as well voice it out before it’s too late. Right?
Two things that are hard to get rid in us are doubts and fears that lead women to assume that we are not loved or even liked by them for they fail to know what we all wanted for a date or for any other meet-ups.
Ladies, if you have something in mind, say it! Don’t pretend that you know nothing about dating, because we do. We really do!
For obvious reason, we are too shy and timid to admit it towards them. However, if the man doesn’t bother or give enough attention to our liking, then he might be not really into us.
If our boyfriend also doesn’t think it seriously, then maybe he doesn’t love or like us the way that we do for them.
That’s sort of an unrequited love.
Because we weren’t given back the same amount of love just like we did for them.
Going back to being transparent with our partner, keep in mind that our request to a man doesn’t have to require so much work or to even cost a lot. We’re only requesting to somehow at least do things in our own terms and not his.
Say for instance, we all want a set of candle lights for our dinner date or a live performance while having a meal with him.
Of course, he still has the freedom to select which place to go, what food to order, and how much money he’s willing to spend for you.
Again, he still has a lot of freedom, but the idea and concept of date came from you.
Always leave something for him and that is the freedom to choose. Letting him to make decisions is a good feeling to any men. Don’t make him feel that he cannot do something for you. Only suggest, but the action must come from him.
Men often love to become a hero to any women. Preventing him to make other decisions is like making him feel that he is not useful to you and you don’t need him at all. Still leave something for him to showcase his skills or talents.
By also letting him do a certain task means that you trust him well enough.
So remember, don’t do all the work. Make him do something to please you.
Do you get now what is the ultimate secret in winning his heart?
That is by simply letting him become a hero to you and be frank when it comes to decision making.
Of course, you also need to be sweet, caring, loving, trustworthy, career driven, family oriented, God fearing, etc. etc. etc. But without these two, it would all be nothing.
‘Cause if you truly want a love to work, there should be a give & take and honesty as well between you and that person to deepen relationship.
Before I forgot, I would like also to point out that by being honest takes courage as well and man wants a brave person; someone who has a fighting spirit and not a drama queen all the time.
If you can talk to him about anything, this man would feel that you valued and trusted him.
That would mean a lot to men.
Apart from what I mentioned, choosing to be honest with your partner means that you are confident and comfortable enough to open-up to him.
Letting him know what we are actually going through is also an open door to help us to be well understood.
So I am praying and hoping everyone to please stop treating men like women who can easily sense what we are going through.
They are not like us, so stop blaming men for their cluelessness.
They are innocent and if we desperately want to earn a man’s love and respect, then we should know and understand that blaming someone isn’t healthy and helpful at all.
You are just shooing them and not letting them to help you out.
Some men become extra careful with their words and actions once they knew something is troubling you and offer you to become your support system whenever you needed to.
So it is also not the man’s duty to love and understand you eternally, but it should be a teamwork!
If you want to keep a man, then help him to understand you as well. There’s no other way to keep the connection going if you are not being so cooperative.
Relationship takes hard work and love is a day to day basis. Just like plant, it dies if it fails to be taken care of.
If all else fails, give yourself and your man some space.
Did you know about the “cave” thing into a man’s life?
I’ve read in one book that if all things got messy, worst or too much to handle, men need to go back to his own cave to be alone. And this is not to show that this man isn’t capable of commitment and love. But this man wants some space to think well. To correct whatever mistakes he has done. And when he finishes it with no interruption, he can now return to you.
So remember, when he needs space…
You need to give it to him. Otherwise, he would get tried trying to understand you all the time and was no longer even sure if he can still commit to a woman who cannot even understand his need to go back to his own cave in the first place.
Men are not expressive, but when they do, it just means that it is already too much to take for them.
But if you allow a man to go to somewhere quiet; his comfort zone (his cave), and you never scold him for allowing him to take a break, the next thing you know, he will come back chasing you, why?
Because you let him to work on himself alone. He misses you and for sure, he will do the same for you. ‘Cause he knows what it feels like to be occupied with so many things that need to find some quiet place to think and calm down for a bit.
This coming Valentine’s Day, may we learn to be understanding and patient with each other. And hopefully, not only for one occasion, but everyday we have to try ’til the very end.
To be honest I already have a scheduled post this Saturday. However, something came up and I started to change my mind all because someone unexpectedly left a message just to call me, chubby. Well, to be honest gaining weight doesn’t necessarily mean neglecting your health.
There are a lot of factors why people gain weight and I will not go further more on that since there is much more important thing that I want to say and that is, every person is lovable regardless of its shape.
I am not encouraging nor promoting obesity, what I am saying is to eat right, be healthy and wait patiently to have someone who truly deserves your heart.
Now is already 2021 and I want the youth to have a better understanding of love and why you need to consider a lot of things first before deciding to be with someone.
In my 26 years of existence and would be turning 27 this year of September, I think I already know a few of why it is better to be single first than to go with the flow of being in a relationship just like everyone else.
When I was still 15 years old, my perspective about love was shallow and simple.
As long as I love him and he loves me, that’s already enough.
To anyone here who’s young, don’t hurry love ’cause you are more prone to being gullible and vulnerable. You thought you already know about love once you’ve felt it, but totally not.
Love is something that needs to be taken care of.
This is not something to be taken for granted. And just because you are lovable and capable to love doesn’t mean you’ll never run out of love, you do. You just thought everything will be fine. But to be honest, you are just way too excited to be in a relationship and once love has not been reciprocated, you’ll soon get worn out.
Just like plant, you still need to water it everyday. Otherwise, it will die pretty soon. And that’s the same thing with love.
Do not ever be satisfied by the famous 3 words, I Love You. ‘Cause if the person truly loves you, he would be willing enough to commit and would think of your feelings first before saying mean things out of his mouth.
I am not saying to look for a perfect man. What I am saying is simply find or wait to have a better guy who can console you whatever happens.
Don’t settle for a man who only sees you as an object and would only be present for you for convenience alone.
Don’t treat yourself that low ’cause if the man genuinely loves you, he will come running for you, reaching out as far as he could just to be with you.
And to the man who failed to commit with us, let us be happy that we’ve already get through with them especially to the man who’s so afraid of commitment and who’s always been there with us ’cause he knows that we’re still in love with them and he can still make himself useful. But now? Though we still value the friendship, our good memories with them, hopefully that’s all that is left in our hearts.
Keep in mind that we deserve better and I hope you young lady reading this will make you change your mind and will wait for a little bit longer.
I know waiting is something hard and impossible to achieve, but once the wait is finally over, you’ll realize that your perseverance to wait truly pays off.
Just think of it this way, why settle for a man that would disappear and no assurance of coming back? Why not go for a man who’s willing to accept you just the way you are and is willing to be patient with you no matter what it takes.
Just to clarify, the man who truly deserves your heart is a guy who won’t question your flaws, but would be willing enough to help you grow and mature in time. Someone who would build your character and find no time to belittle you.
A lot of times when we are madly in love, we are often blinded by the idea of accepting the bad sides of a person just because we love him and so we accepted the spanking, cheating, harsh words and the like. We failed to realize that we are the only one who’s capable to love and never him.
Don’t wait for the right time, leave the person whenever you can.
Don’t waste your life just for a single person who never sees your worth. And be thankful and proud once you were able to escape and get over him.
This post is not only meant for us, women but for men as well. We all deserve to be loved and I do hope that before searching for that kind of relationship, we must know how to treat ourselves rightly. So when the right person comes…we can love fully.
Thank you for reading my blog post and I would be giving another bonus topic by next Sunday. Stay tune!
2020 has been the most painful year for all of us because of Covid-19 pandemic, Beirut explosions, Super Typhoon and many more.
People in general is currently dealing with depression today because some had lost their loved ones. Some even became homeless due to Beirut explosions or Super typhoon. While others end up being jobless due to Covid-19 which lead people to feel lost, empty, and depressed for there is nothing more that they could do, but to accept it.
Despite the fact that covid-19 vaccine is becoming available all across the world, still it would probably take a couple of years for us to recover from all the disasters.
To be honest, when I was still a little girl I frequently think of suicide as if it is the best solution that I could ever have.
Today is Friday and I am about to discuss how depression affects every person and being suicidal is one of the most common factors of depression.
Even though we know to ourselves that the best solution is to face it for us to conquer our fear…sadly we refrain from giving it another try. You see, not everyday we have enough courage to stand on our own. That is why we still need a support system for us to win over depression.
In most common cases, when people are depressed we tend to isolate ourselves from others. We even skip meals. We also often make unhealthy decisions for ourselves that is not helping at all. We even try to escape from feeling low and helpless. However, we failed in overcoming our fears and doubts that made us trapped or stuck in that situation. As a result of that, we now lost the courage to search for an escape and perceive things negatively as if it is unchangeable.
Whoever may be reading this and is currently dealing with depression today…may this blog helps you in any possible way.
These are just some of the things that I know and I often do in order to beat depression. Feel free to add more!
Simple and practical ways to conquer depression especially on a holiday:
I begun to pray the holy rosary after Super typhoon “Rolly” landed in Catanduanes last November 1, 2020 leaving most people with no homes. Pandemic isn’t over yet and here were are facing another calamity. Too much to handle that I ask God to give me more wisdom and strength to carry on in life.
I know, this may be a simple routine of praying, but with consistent effort could somehow strengthen our faith in Christ.
There are only 2 things that might happen. First, either you understand your problem or second, you gain some strength in dealing with your problems. Whatever it may be, for sure it would yield some good results.
If you are depressed and commiting suicide is the only option you are looking forward to, why not seek God’s help?
After all, praying is not for the weak, but for the strong person to admit that he or she is needing some guidance.
When everything else is too much to handle, I just choose to sleep rather than be awake ’til midnight. Being awake when everyone else is sleeping invites you into doing something dangerous like jumping off the roof; slashing your wrist with any sharp object; bumping your head on the wall ’til it hurts, etc. So for me to stop entertaining any negative thoughts, I just force myself to sleep.
In addition to that, sleeping helps us to think more clearly. When you had enough sleep, your mind and body are in a good state which helps you to make a quick and hopefully a better decision.
So if you are wondering if there are still better days to come, just hold on tight and trust the Lord with all your heart. Whatever you may be going through today is just a stepping stone to find meaning in your life.
Just think of it this way…if life would be too easy, then there is nothing more better days to look forward to. Life would eventually becomes dull and boring without the existence of problems.
You may live in comfort, but find no meaning or purpose in life. And I bet, that is more tragic to hear than having problems like the rest.
I don’t know if it is something psychological, but every time I take vitamins it often made me feel better. There is probably a particular substance which helps me to feel more relaxed and happier.
Upon research, there are really an existing vitamins for depression. Please check the link provided for it better explains what specific vitamins that can help us improve our mind condition.
Anyway, you are free to choose whether to take vitamins or consume real fruits. Eating something sweets also help you to feel better, just don’t overdo it or your depression could get worsen.
It is indeed true that through listening to beautiful melodies give us comfort which helps us to think less of our problems. Listening to instruments is a good choice, too.
Music can even uplift our spirit and may help us in actually moving on from a failed relationship, career, or a dream.
I remember when someone broke my heart, I used to listen to Camila Cabello’s song “Consequences” and just by simply listening to its beat and its lyrics, it really do help me cope from a failed relationship for it enables me to release my emotions with ease.
I highly suggest to choose a song that suits you well. Select a song that is similar to what you are currently going through ’cause that way, you’ll know that you are not the only one who’s experiencing it.
Besides, artists won’t be able to compose a song or sing it with feelings if they haven’t been there. Each and everyone of us go through that phase. We just assumed that our problems are absolutely unique, but it do happen to others a well. We are just completely unaware of it.
Apart from that, what I love about music is the fact that it could change our mood in an instant. Every time you feel bad about anything, remind yourself that music is something we could easily turn to.
And for those who had lost whatever and whoever that is important to them…music may not be the answer to our problems, but it is a way to release whatever hard feelings we may be going through.
As what I learned from “Burnout” book of Emily & Amelia Nagoski, you have to complete the stress cycle.
A lot of people is experiencing an extreme stress or sadness which leads them to end their lives all because of failing to open up.
Taking all the problems from themselves alone isn’t a healthy idea because once they are gone on earth, their problems remain unsolved and they were only able to escape from it.
So for you to complete the stress cycle, you have to feel the pain and don’t cover it by pretending to people or even to yourself that you are totally okay.
You’re not okay and letting yourself to feel the pain or the hurt is also a way to heal from it. That is why there’s a saying that, “Crying is good for the soul” because you were able to release whatever you are feeling inside.
Keeping it would just deepen the pain and would prevent you from fixing it or getting it healed, so start by being honest with yourself and learn from it.
Same thing with music, this kind of activity helps you to cope with our pain or loss.
Watching anything is also a good outlet to be away from whatever we are going through today.
I believe, visuals are one of the most effective tools we can use to teach ourselves from accepting all the good and bad experiences and recognizing the purpose of it.
Probably God is teaching us to be strong, patient and to deepen our own understanding for whatever problems we may be dealing with.
Every time I got depressed, I used to watch series and end up binge watching whatever that intrigues me or find it interesting. Aside from that, it occupies our mind to a new knowledge, learning, and experience which is something beneficial to us, humans.
So do yourself a favor, find something to watch that can help you deal with depression today.
To be honest, we are very much fortunate ’cause everything is already at the tip of our fingers. It would only depend on how will we use our downtime.
See how she was able to overcome herself from being addicted to pills. All along, she thought that pills is the answer to help her concentrate from solving chess, but truly not. Because her talent and dedication in winning for the game of chess is already enough.
She was just blinded by the idea that pills is everything that she only have…when in fact, there are a lot of people who cares and worries for her.
She was also blinded by the idea of being unworthy ’cause her own biological mother left her. So what expects her to gain an unconditional love from others. It was (again) a limited series and I hope you mind watching it.
But for anyone who’s underage, I suggest to watch Jingle Jangle: A Christmas Journey movie which I recently post. This talks about regaining back your confidence from yourself.
I already mentioned many times that I am suicidal that is why, I became so much fond of reading. This is not only for the sake of enriching my english vocabulary, but for the mind to keep busy. This has been my escape to all my frustrations in life. Whenever I read, it felt like I already travelled the world.
When you discover and learn new things, it broadens your horizon. Despite the fact I am suicidal, I begun to think that if I put an end on my life…then all my efforts in becoming great will become wasted.
Challenge yourself to read. This mental exercise will nourish us to make a mature and better decisions for our great future. So, let’s give it a try.
As what people often say, you are a great writer whenever you are hurt, disappointed, depressed, frustrated, and the like.
Simply because writing gives you a release of emotion and the freedom to express whatever you feel.
The reason why I chose blogging is because I used to write down all my experiences, the good and the bad.
When you blog, you are now sharing it with people and oftentimes, we don’t want others to correct or judge our own mistakes. We simply want ourselves to be heard by anyone and that’s more than enough.
It is still up to us what to do with our own lives. That’s why there’s a phrase “feelings for feelings” which I learned from one of my business seminars I attended to. It simply means understanding the shoe of others or humbly empathizing with them.
If you are not fond of reading and you want some other outlet to release what you are feeling inside, then maybe this is now the right time to find the essence of writing. If you are not comfortable from sharing it to anyone, it is better to write it down and also jot down the solutions to be made in order to overcome depression.
We are a good eater when we are going through something ’cause we needed the energy to suppress not only hunger, but stress as well. Unfortunately, people tend to eat more than the expected consumption of food and that’s called emotional or stress eating.
Whenever I am stressed out, I tend to eat more. And the moment I realize it, I need to encourage myself to eat at the right time.
If we often deprive ourselves from food, more often than not, we will end up to overeat.
Make sure to eat right on time to prevent you from indulging yourself from overeating.
For those who are heartbroken or far away from home this Christmas, I suggest to monitor what you eat. Not only that it might put a harm to your health, but would make you more depressed if you don’t pay attention to what you eat.
Choose food to eat that is light and healthy. Gaining weight will only add more to your stress, not unless you don’t care much about your body shape or figure.
But again, this not about looking good, but mostly feeling good about yourself inside.
Humans used to consume water everyday because that is a necessity to our body. But not all drinks promote the same benefits.
Water is expected to have zero calories and to cleanse our body.
If you’re being depressed due to weight gain, then drinking green or black tea would somehow help.
If you’re having an insomia, drinking a glass of camomile may somehow improve your sleeping habits and prevent us from overthinking.
If you want to have a good scent of drink, serve yourself a glass of infused pure peppermint. You’ll enjoy it’s minty smell and so with its taste.
Why am I recommending something to drink? Simple. I want people to try something else to drink.
It maybe a just drink, but each of them has a special purpose which can contribute to a healthy lifestyle.
But coffee & wine are my most favorite drinks whenever I am depressed or stressed out. Both of them promotes good health, too so long as you drink it in moderation.
And some prefer to drink hard liquors to forget about their problems even for just a day and you are free to try it, just don’t abuse yourself. But it’s a “No” for minors.
Drinking is also like eating. You need to take something in order for you to relieve stress. Whatever drink you prefer, free feel to choose just be aware of it’s side effects.
So just drink and not overdrink!
Ugh! The most awful thing to do is chores, but it is also the most rewarding thing to do.
Whenever you feel that everything is not falling into places, the most simple thing to do is to declutter. Chores isn’t about cleaning, but also getting rid of your old stuff. Things that have no more value to you.
It’s time to share your unused things with others for your area to be spacious; able to breathe and relax.
Messy surroundings will only add more stress to you and by simply doing this simple step would help you to concentrate more.
If you are not fond of doing chores, then look around if you are not bothered by the same vibe. Changing also the position of your stuff could help in de-stressing as well.
Some do chores just to redocorate the whole room for them to change its vibe and for them to attract more positive elements.
Whatever you plan to do with your room or your house, just know that what you are doing is for the sake of keeping your mind away from all the negative energy that you’re getting from stress, anxiety, and the like.
So ladies and gentlemen, do not underestimate the importance of chores.
Thank me later!
There are a lot of things you need to be thankful for ’cause it is free. Look at the sunshine. Go out for a walk or run a marathon. Whatever outdoor activity that you’re interested in will be worth it.
I would like to take note that going outside doesn’t really mean going on a trip. Since it is still pandemic we are constrained to go outside, but we are not limited to ideas.
If your house has a roof, you can simply stand still and let your body receive the heat of the sunlight. You can do some stretching to warm up your body.
If you have a playground or a garden, then you can simply water the plant or play with your pet if ever you have one.
Outdoor doesn’t mean you have to travel far. A lot of times we just need to recharge and change our cycle especially our surroundings to be able to cope with our depression.
Oh c’mon! Even though some of you are introvert, you still need to mingle with other people. I am not encouraging anyone to talk with strangers, but I am asking you to communicate with others.
Oftentimes, we got depressed simply because we thought that we are the only one who’s having a difficulty in life.
When we socialize with others most especially our loved ones, we’ll know that all of us have problems and you’re not alone all along.
Voicing out your struggles to your confidant helps you to release the weight you are feeling inside and when it gradually release all the heaviness a person is carrying, it would eventually create a relief which is a good thing to everyone’s health.
This kind of activity can also be done at home. There are a lot of workouts over the internet. You can choose a cardio or a strength training. The type of workout would only depend on your goals.
Be sure to do some warm ups, cool downs before and after workout. If you don’t have a trainer, you can start by doing little reps to condition your body.
Please remember that we are not the same, so only do some exercises that you can only bear.
Exercise helps a lot to de-stress and if you do this regulary, dealing with depression would somehow be lessened. Not only that it clears your mind and relaxes your body, but daily workout is proven to promote wellness.
If you are really having a hard time to open up your problems even to your family, then I must say that you need to consult yourself from a health professionals such as Psychiatrist.
This is not only for the crazy people out there, but to anyone who currently has mental, emotional, or behavioral problems.
They may prescribe a medicine that may be beneficial to your emotional condition.
A lot of times we are in denial to admit that we don’t need to seek help ’cause we feel that nobody would want to listen, so why not solve it on our own. Right?
But the reason why we are becoming more depressed is because we are not letting it out. Instead of opening up, we are putting a wall to others which prevents them from being able to be of a help to us.
Of course, consulting to experts need courage and the ball is all yours.
The very first person to know if someone needs some counseling is yourself. I know it may cost some money, but it’s gonna be worth it.
This is for anyone who’s needing an immediate help.
You matter and to anyone who’s losing now the faith in Christ must acknowledge that he/she needs guidance or support from someone.
Do it today and I assure you, your life is not a waste. Keep reminding yourself that whatever you are feeling today is just temporary and for that, I thank you for minding to read my blog post for today.
By the way, I’ve posted a lot that is related to my topic today.
Feel free to check it out if you need something more to read.
Finally, it’s Thursday! Time for current events to discuss. Today, we’re going to talk about the behavior of protesters.
How it affects us and what is their purpose in calling for an attention. Since this event continue to happen worldwide, I think we need to be well informed of the difference of constructive criticism from bashing.
I already mentioned it on my previous post that bashing is simply subjective for it usually based on personal feelings. Whereas, constructive criticism is objective for there has been a basis for it.
And since this is going to be a long discussion, I want you to relax and find a quite place to read.
Now, without further ado, here’s the issue.
Last December 10, 2020 while I was scanning for news on Facebook, I saw one article from GMA News about the effigy of President Rodrigo Duterte which will be used in Manila for rally to mark it’s International Human Rights Day.
We all know that becoming a President is the most challenging one, for you are given the highest position to lead for your countrymen. It is both a great honor and a blessing to have it. Unfortunately, whoever gets that position will also receive a lot of hatred from people.
In the website of GMA News the President was accused of committing human rights violations, specifically on the violent war on drugs which have killed thousand of lives.
The moment I’ve read the news, it got me to think of why of all those things they’ve given more attention on the killing of people who used to be a drug addict and got involved in the operation of producing and selling of illegal drugs?
I am not saying that, we should not care about the lost lives of people, most especially the innocent ones. What I am really pointing out is the drug lords and drug users who need to be arrested and be killed. Otherwise, millions of people will be the one to suffer.
If there has been some lapses on the part of anti-drug operations, I’m sure there might be some valid reasons behind it. You see, some suspects do not want to get arrested so they try hard to escape. In most common scenario, suspects often bring a sharp object for self-defense and as a general rule of policemen, when suspects tried to escape and kill other people, they have no other choice but to shoot them especially if there has already been a hard evidence.
As a citizen, I know most people would think that they do not need to punish criminals just for them to repent and pay for all the crimes they’ve made. But I believe that anyone who may be in that position of policemen have no other choice, but to act fast.
We may also be thinking that, policemen can choose to only shoot the suspects’ feet or legs to stop them from running away. But it would also be a challenge if suspects are already far from them.
If ever there has been a foul play in the incident, punishment must be made with no exemptions.
Again, I do not get why they give more importance on war on drugs since there are a lot more issues here in the Philippines that need to get an immediate action in order to find justice.
The following are just some of the things that violate Human Rights:
The shutdown and non-renewal of ABS-CBN franchise despite no violations.
Justice for Maria Ressa and Leila De Lima.
The absolute pardon of Pemberton who found guilty of killing a Filipino transgender.
Not bringing of officials to prison for their violations on heath protocols.
Only the ordinary and powerless people are being punished. Whereas, those who have a connection from the government are being freed and not being penalized for their wrong actions.
I am not saying all of them, but in most cases this happen all the time.
He are just a few cases that put justice into question.
Anyway, I honestly salute all protesters for standing up for their rights and making some noise to spread awareness. But let us all remember that not all protesters are of the same kind.
Some of them are consistent in raising an awareness for a good cause. Unfortunately, other protesters were only used to spreading hate to whoever got the position for presidency like as if they are more capable of changing the world into a better place and these people are jobless, homeless, and rebels. All of them boils down to not being socially responsible for the country.
Oftentimes, they blame the government for poverty when in fact, they are the ones who failed to finish their studies, have no financial and family planning, have no ambition, and the like.
If they truly see themselves as better citizens, then why waste all their energy and money on effigy?
I get the point of using props and that is to convey a message. But after burning all that stuff, will that improve their lives? Will they earn money after protesting?
If they desperately want a change in our country, then the change must start from within.
Instead of fueling their anger towards the government, then help the bereaved family of the victims. Find a decent job and work hard enough to give your family a better future. Stop all your vices and be a responsible citizen. Do not start a family if you are not yet financially ready. Lastly, study hard and become socially aware on our surroundings so we won’t be fooled by them.
Just to clarify, I am not siding the government nor the protesters. What I am saying is the fact that there is already an existing problem in our country, better stop adding more problems to it. Stop blaming all the people for your bad luck, sad life and the circumstances you’ve never expected to happen just like pandemic and super typhoon.
These are some of the things we have no control of. Instead of putting all the blame to the government, why not be just all honest with our shortcomings?
If we see the President as imperfect and incompetent, and so did we.
Let’s stop coming clean, accept all our flaws and do something about it.
All our actions have consequences and we are in no different from the President.
May we pray earnestly for him to give wisdom to correct whatever mistakes he has done for his people and may we also do the same for our family and ourselves.
I honestly voted for Duterte to become the President of the Philippines since Davao has low rates of crime due to his strict implementation of rules in his province. But that doesn’t mean that I often agree to every statement he made in public and just because I am not pleased with his performance, this should mean that I should insult the President including his appearance.
I do know that the sole purpose of protesting is to raise an awareness. But the moment I saw these photos, I deeply felt bad for my country.
He may not be the kindest President we ever had, but this is way too much; already below the belt!
Having a freedom of speech in our country doesn’t equates to having every right to brutally offend and mistreat anyone.
Let’s be straightforward. He may have a lot of flaws, but nobody deserves to be bashed.
I repeat, constructive criticism is objective. Whereas, bashing is subjective. Let us hopefully come to our senses and act like humans.
That’s why we are humans because we are far more better than animals. We are rational beings, so let’s not put ourselves into waste. May we raise our voices in a most respectful way.
There’s a saying that, do not put your dirty laundry in public because it will only reflect of what kind of person are you and it is indeed true.
Hating a person doesn’t mean we have to stoop that low and act wild.
That’s the problem in having a rally because not only that they may cause a traffic or any of forms of interruption, but they, too cause a harm to others. You see, there are some protesters who went too far in hurting people even the innocent ones.
In my own perspective, you can still continue to spread an awareness without the need to go outside and participate in the said rally. Mind you, our country is still not yet zero from covid-19 cases. Though, there’s already a vaccine for coronavirus, it is still better to be safe than regret in the end.
Regardless of how will they be able to maintain a distance from each other and no matter how much health protocols will they observe…joining a rally is never a healthy idea in the midst of pandemic.
In addition to that, most protesters will only leave their used props everywhere and will not be willing to dispose all their trashes at the appropriate place. They will leave their used materials from the streets causing more labor on the sweepers’ end.
Is protesting makes you a good citizen?
Well, for me depending on how will you participate in the said event. Know that whatever you do to your people will also go back to you. Good deeds will yield good results and bad deeds will also yield bad results.
So we better choose kindness, while it is not yet too late.
If you were able to read my blog post…
What is your reaction on President Rodrigo Duterte Effigy?
How do you feel that thousands of people viewed Duterte as a virus?
Well, if I were in the position of Duterte, I will view them as a disease for they are the real problem to our country. They kept on complaining rather than working hard enough to have a better living.
For me, killing of people is necessary most especially if they got involved in drugs. Not only that these are illegal, but also dangerous. For every person who will take illegal drugs, imagine how many people will suffer from rape, murder, homicide, suicide, and the like.
Instead of being a problem to our country, why not be the solution for it?
After all, anger just fuels anger and nothing else.
What is something you can do to at least make a difference?
For the nth time, let’s get straight to the point and humbly refrain from attacking people. They, too have feelings. It’s not right spreading hatred than giving them a clear message instead.
I hope you learned something today and I’ll give some tips by next week. The topic will be a surprise, so please tune in. Thank you for patiently reading my lengthy post and God bless!
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The film tells us that you just have to believe, someone needed to believe and that is a hundred percent true, especially when we see someone is believing in our own capabilities. Regardless of its number…it will surely gives us the strength to keep doing what we think impossible.
“If you believe, it’s all possible”
The film has a sort of musical and fantasy. And there’s this lyrics that captured my attention.
” The square root of impossible is possible in me.”
In my own understanding, the thing that is holding us back is ourselves. As what the film told us that magic is already prepared for us. It’s probably been waiting for the right time when we are all ready enough.
Skills and talents were not gone. We are actually the ones who got lost and so with our faith in ourselves. If we truly want it to naturally come out, we have to keep telling ourselves that we can do it no matter what it takes.
I know, “Believe” maybe a simple word, but once we start to believe in ourselves nothing will ever be impossible.
If ever you guys are free and want to spend some quality time with your family especially on a Christmas day, I truly recommend this movie ’cause it is suitable for all ages.
Feel free to read it’s full lyrics so you would know how beautiful the song is.
Most of the selected songs from the movie are danceable, uplifting, and has a lot of morals.
I bet, you’ll definitely miss being a child, where in there’s a lot of ambitions even imaginations about life.
It’s because in our childhood years, it is where we are often ready to do the things we truly wanted. Whatever people say to us, we only brushed it off until we try it.
You know, during our younger years we are honestly not afraid of anything; of trying things that we are unsure of.
We keep on trying and trying, not until we grew older and understand that life wasn’t such an easy one.
That is why I am recommending this for everyone to recall their childhood memories, especially the things that they still continue to believe despite its impossibilities.
After all, there’s nothing bad in trying.
Even though its fails, sooner or later we will all get things done and right.
I hope I was able to give some wisdom as well as courage to the one who’s now losing the power to believe in themselves.
If you were able to read my blog post…
What are the things you’ve done in your life that you thought impossible?
I am pretty sure that everyone has that moment where in, we’ve started to have doubts towards ourselves. But luckily was able to overcome it the moment we realized that there are people out there who still believe in us, which helps us to bring back our confidence and give it another try.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog post and that ends our topic for this week.
I’ll be sharing some current events by next week, so hang in there. God bless!
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And you know what, it was honestly not a good feeling talking to your readers as if you’re an expert in everything.
As my journey of being a blogger goes on, I’ve come to realize that we still need to consult people or do a little bit of research to have a better knowledge on a certain topic than to try hard enough to appear to be a smart one.
I bet in general, we have assumed that exploring is understandable and so we’ve treated everything posted on our blog like our own.
In my blogging career, I’ve seen many bloggers who don’t put a value on recognizing their sources of information. They also shared several photos without giving any credits to whoever or where those photos taken. They tried so hard to give several information, but failed to mention where did they get all of those.
We live in unfair world, where the people who worked hard enough are the ones who do not receive enough credits for creating a masterpiece.
The truth is…
We can never be a guru in everything. Thus, we need to recognize those sites and people we’ve illegally used their sources.
While I understand that being a blogger is a long learning process, they would appreciate us more if we will only focus on what we know about or something we are truly good at and not trying to be good at everything.
I know that it is a nice feeling to be viewed as a well-rounded person, but what we are most forgetting in making our blog is that…
We must find ourselves in it.
What I’m trying to say is that, we should be honest with our readers. Don’t try to exaggerate things just for us to get an attention from the crowd. After all, nobody wants to be liked by people we are not.
Now, I want to ask about your own struggle in your blog.
It is normal to experiment first, but losing our own identity in order to gain a lot of readers is just like putting all our efforts into waste.
Because one day, we will all become tired and exhausted becoming someone we are not.
So while it is not too late, just be real with our content. Just like what I’ve said on my previous post, we can’t expect everyone to like everything we post.
All of us have different tastes and interests in life, so try not to feel little with our work.
But count everything as our progress. Whether it is a small or big achievement, we have to recognize it.
As long as we are trying hard and working hard, everything will surely pay off.
Have you tried to be a guru in everything?
If yes, what has been the most awful experience you’ve encountered from your readers? Feel free to comment below!
Thank you for reading my blog post and my next topic will be published after this week.
⁃ Giving yourself a deadline helps you to become productive. However, know that if you craft is still not good enough…better delay it than criticize your work for your negligence.
⁃ Do not also post just for the sake of being active. Only post once you are done proofreading. I often say this thing, do not underestimate the essence of having a content or a substance.
⁃ Do not copy anyone’s work. Always remember that you can only stand out from the crowd if you choose to be original.
This is the reason why I do not read all bloggers’ work in fear of copying their style for writing.
You can get some help or gain some insights, but never let yourself to be somebody else. Let the people admire you for who you are.
But here’s the heartbreaking truth…
Not everyone will like about what you post. You can recommend your blog, but never force them to read everything. Accept that all of us have different interests in life and that, having few readers is enough especially when you are new to this field.
Just don’t stop blogging for whatever that interests you and make sure that it is worthy of their time.
If you want to build a strong and long lasting connection to your readers, just try to be as interesting as possible. Ask them about what’s on their mind or how they feel about it. In that way, they wouldn’t feel that you are just talking to yourself and avoiding people to react on your work.
And remember, there’s always room for improvement. So be always open to feedback and never dwell on any forms of criticism.
Thank you for reading my short post and God bless! I hope you will be able to post with all honesty and not only for the sake of gaining more viewers.
If you were able to read everything…
What has been the most challenging part when you were just a newbie in the field of blogging?
Happy weekend, guys! Feel free to comment below. Stay healthy and keep safe. Gracias!
Honestly, I grew up hating my life because this is not something that I had wish to have.
I am grateful, but not contented.
I almost have everything, but I often end up dissatisfied with the kind of life that I have.
So what gives me the right to speak about optimism, right?
But last night, when I was already resting someone texted me and told me that they were already on roof due to typhoon “Ulysses” which caused the areas to be engulfed by flood.
All homes were soaked in water with mud and I started to cry out of worry.
But you know what this person told me?
What’s with that worry? We are all fine! This person told me that I should be strong and be more thankful to God for they are still alive.
But let’s admit, our loved ones is our “achilles’ heel” that made it hard for us to see and accept the fact that they are suffering so much especially in this time of pandemic and now, facing another catastrophe in our lives.
Looking back, when I was in college I had a thesis about the effects of happy disposition and it seems like this person knows well my study more than I do.
How ironic, right? Seems to be more educated as well ’cause it did not affect this person’s point of view in life no matter how bad life gets and this made me feel more special to have someone who has that kind of thinking…much matured and full of positivity in life!
Now, I can attest that my philosophy professor was right in claiming that the most giving persons on earth were the poor ones.
Simply because they are still willing to share whatever that is left on them because they know how it feels to have nothing.
Sad to say, we need to see the sufferings of others not really to pity on them, but only to help us realize how lucky we are and that, we must be ashamed of God for making a fuss rather than praising him for all the blessings he had given to us.
Of course , I cannot promise to everyone that I would be as positive as this person, but somehow it moved me in choosing to be positive more often than to worry and complain a lot of things.
Just so you know, I became really depressed this month because I was constrained to do what I like. So down that it felt like I was not given a good life ’cause I was like a prisoner in our own house.
But after knowing what this person is going through, unexpectedly it gave me a meaningful message that I would never forget and that is…
Seeing the sufferings of our loved ones serve as an eye-opener on how we look at our own lives. God let us see the suffering of our loved ones to help us appreciate the blessings that was given to us in which we often took for granted.
Kudos to this person for making me realize that I was so wrong the whole time. I just feel suffocated, envy, and too desperate to get all my desires.
Hoping that I was able to give a light to others despite the fact that I am in no position to say these things. Just would like to help especially those who were already losing their faith in God.
It may not be our time, but with patience and right mindset, we will soon get there!
Maybe God has not given my plea all because of my tantrums, lack of faith in Him and most of all, comparing myself too often to anyone.
I am deeply sorry for acting foolish, oh Lord. Hopefully, this will be the starting point of changing my outlook in life that whatever storm we will face, there will always be a silver lining.
Thank you for taking the time to read my blog post and I do hope that you also learned something today. God bless!￼
If you were able to finish reading my work…
What for you is the most annoying thing that has ever happened in your life, but felt guilty after learning the purpose of it?
Thinking that the worst enemy is my parents ’cause they are so controlling, strict and very conservative.
I’m already 26 years old. Had finished my studies and already working for almost 5 years now. But still they never allowed me to date or to hangout with friends just to travel. It should only be within our area and with a companion as well.
My life was about school and now, all about work since it’s a family business. I never really got a chance to get a normal life nor given too much freedom. And it adds more pain in my heart to be stuck at home due to Covid-19 threat. I became even more paranoid knowing that my life revolves around work and family alone.
That’s how I lived my life. I’ve been deprived for so long that it hurts so much that I never got a chance to have a kind of freedom just like everyone else. It’s true that when I was born, they were already wealthy and so they secured our life too much that sometimes, it became more stressful at home rather than fun.
But after assessing my life, I can proudly say that I am in good hands the moment that I was born. I may be got bullied at school, but never did I had a chance to be drunk and be raped which is too common for teenagers since they are the most gullible and vulnerable one.
Having strict parents is also a blessing ’cause whoever man that will come into your life, you can assure that you will be respected all because of them.
And whatever respect that I am receiving, the credit goes to my parents for molding me into a better person.
Of course, I am still hoping and wishing to grant my prayer and request since I am now matured and old enough. I promise that I would be more careful on whatever decisions that I will make in the future for them to stop worrying.
Now, it’s your turn to share. I am open whatever you want to share with me.