Can You Delay Gratification?

Hello, RT Supporters! Today, we’re going to talk about the significant benefits of delaying one’s gratification.

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As time goes by, it is now easier to earn money in this modern generation because of the help of social media.

However, just because someone is already earning doesn’t necessarily mean there’s no need to delay one’s desire.

We are all created equal and the same. We only became separated with each other because of our current status in life.

But the truth is, nobody lives in a perfect world. Everyone has problems and no one is ever been exempted in that situation.

Without further ado, let’s discuss and enumerate what makes the delay truly worth the wait!

Since there’s a lot to mention, I’ll be focusing only on 3 factors.

Peace Of Mind

First of all, when you delay something it gives you peace of mind. Simply because you are not stuck in situation where in, you are still not capable of resolving problems on your own.

Say for example, becoming a mother at the age of 13 is not an easy role. And in general, most teenage moms often ask an assistance either from their family, relatives or to whom they could at least get a support or guidance.

Healthy Decision

Second is the fact that you delay things give you an ample time to make healthy and better decisions.

As what I remembered and learned from Netflix’s Documentary Film, “The Minimalist” being simple is hard to achieve compared to being easy.

That’s because being easy means you just go with the flow. Whereas, being simple requires a lot of planning and hard work and that’s similar in making life choices.

It’s way easier to follow the norm than to plan things on your own.

But I want to tell you that once you delay your desire…you are not only making your life free from any trauma or stress, but you are reducing the probability of facing such difficulty in life.

Getting pregnant at the age of 13 is not and will never be a wise decision to make.

Not only that you are underage, but that can still be considered as child sexual abuse even though it is not by force and with your consent.

Simply because you are still young and innocent which means that you are prone to being gullible and vulnerable.

Whoever is reading this that is still a minor, I hope and pray that there is someone who will look after you even if you already reached your legal age.

So many people make unwise decisions in life because of the lack of support from their parents or guardians.

One thing I’ve learned from Mom is the fact that I am curious doesn’t mean I have to try it. Experience is not always the best teacher. If it could be prevented, then it could lead to a positive outcome such as by graduating on time, be able to focus on your growth first, and lastly being being able to savor whatever you currently have today.

Readiness

Last but not the least, when you delay what you desire prepares you enough for greater responsibility in the future.

People will always have problems. However, better things happen to those who delay things because not only that they mature over time, but they become more equipped in solving problems on their own.

They are not just physically, mentally, and socially prepared, but they, too are now spiritually and financially prepared.

Whatever life throws at them, they are now strong and can endure the pain of hardships in life.

Money is not really the cause of evil. If use wisely, it can be a solution to anyone’s problem.

Now, let me ask you a question.

Are you the type of person who delays gratification or consume whatever resources you have right now?

Say for example, instead of saving money for your business, you spend all your money in building a house.

Well, there is nothing wrong in owning a house, however you don’t earn from it. Not unless you both have enough passive and active income to sustain it.

Whereas, owning a business helps you to cover your rent expense, pay for electricity and water bill, and so on and so forth.

Similar to becoming a Mom, it is better to delay the baby first. Rather than having a baby you are not yet ready to shoulder responsibilities with.

So, can you now delay gratification or you still haven’t change your mind?

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Win A Man’s Heart This Coming Valentines

Hello, guys! I know most of you are so excited for the upcoming Valentine’s Day this year 2021. Unfortunately, mastering the art of confidence is still hard to achieve even up to this day.

And this is what most women dare to bring off in order to look astonishing in the eyes of a man.

But before anything else, I would like to give you a heads-up that I am not a Love Guru on this field. I just want to help people, so let’s just safely say that I gained countless of lessons from personal experiences; hearing stories from different sets of people; watching televisions and movies; reading books and so much more.

Once combined, it creates a collection of information.

Isn’t that great?

I hope all of you are having a quality time with your loved ones today since this is a Sunday blog post.

So, let’s start!

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In this time and age where it is already easy to express feelings, still many of us are having a hard time to get the man of our dreams.

This topic has nothing to do with flirt, blind date, hook-up, and the like. This is something that most women have underestimated and overlooked.

If your utmost intention is to find love; get into a man’s heart; and or maintain a relationship…

Then, the most basic and vital thing to do is self-acceptance.

Accept that we are not a perfect being. We don’t have a perfect body. We don’t have a perfect face. Nor are we perfect for any men.

By majority, men prefer natural beauty over the fake one. But due to the influence of media, women feel that something is wrong with them that needs to be fixed, so they allow themselves to undergo plastic surgery. But this is only for those who can afford to.

In relation to that, a lot of women put a lot of concealers for them to hide all the scars, marks, etc. All unpleasant areas have been kept hidden for as long as they could.

Women try to cover it in the hopes that the probability of an acceptance from a man would be high.

Not only that, they made sure that they are perfectly fit, attractive, and sexy which results them to skip meals and starve themselves to death in fear that if men find out their natural figure, it would be a disappointment to them.

Since women are emotional beings, we often have a lot of insecurities to ourselves.

Without a man in our lives feel like we are incomplete, so for us to prevent that from happening to our lives…

We go out and chase the man that we adore!

And because some women cannot wait any much longer, we even adjust our interests in line with men.

You know, just to get an immediate attention and hopefully, would somehow get the affection women have been longing and dying for.

This is absolutely alarming for they forced themselves to change not for the betterment of one’s being, but only to please a man.

I know, I get the idea of waiting too much. I get the frustration that no other good man might come along, so we’ll only stick to someone whom we barely even know.

It is better to be that way than to be single for the rest of our lives.

The common misconception of most women even in the present time.

It’s like we are still stuck on the 18th century where marriage is kinda big deal to us.

There’s one scene in Pride and Prejudice where a woman immediately accepts the offer of marriage in fear of ending up alone and becoming only a spinster.

She’s already 27, no money and home. She’s becoming ashamed of herself still living with parents. So she asked her friend, Elizabeth not to judge her decision for she doesn’t know what else to do with her life.

Sadly, we still have that feeling of being inadequate.

Men don’t want insecure women around. They want someone who are confident enough to admit that they are not perfect and they are fine with it. They accept it and is using their imperfections to make an awareness to other women that there’s nothing wrong with all our imperfections.

Men want to see someone who is positive and has a healthy way of improving herself rather than feeling that some needs to get fixed!

When you can accept yourself, the more man is capable of loving you.

If you cannot accept yourself, any man would feel that he cannot make you happy and satisfy for the rest of your life.

Men hate a pessimistic one!

Don’t get me wrong, it is normal for us to cry and share all the kinds of drama in life. But let us not forget that men are humans, too. They also need love, affection, and support.

If you tend to speak about yourself all the time and you never allow any man to open up to you, there’s higher probability that this man will find someone who can also listen to his own stories, problems, or whatsoever.

We often assumed that all men are strong and emotionless. Truth is, they only show their true colors to someone they are comfortable with; someone they knew who can also console them.

If you want to have a strong relationship, you should learn to give a man his own spot. Try to ask him about how was his day? Or if you already know that he has been going through something, try to reach out to him and let him know that you are willing to listen whatever that is bothering him.

Assure him that you can be there, maybe not physically present all the time. But mentally you are there and you are a ready to listen to him with an ear of heart. No judgment or any pieces of unsolicited advice. Only give advice when he dare to ask you about something.

A lot of times we thought that giving a man an advice would solve the issue, but it’s not. Not everything will work out for everyone. Just give him space when he asks for it, but please be there when he needed you the most.

But here’s what you need to keep in mind...

Don’t go to any men you know who are already afraid of commitment. That would be a problem and yup, another problem.

Don’t also go near to someone who’s controlling and has no respect to you and to others. Choose only the man you are comfortable with.

Though we are desperately in search for love, doesn’t mean we can do that to all men. Let us not forget that not all men are of the same kind.

I know things really get rough and exhausted, especially these days where we live in a world that the concept of love needs to come with lust first. That’s why some women allow themselves to cohabitate with any man just to prove her love for him and here comes the big fact!

Just because you gave in to him doesn’t necessarily mean that he would do the same for you.

I am not generalizing that all men are like that. But sadly, once they easily get you, there’s higher tendency that most men will become bored to you. You know why?

Because there’s no more thrill in the relationship or whatever connection you have with him. Once men are no longer challenged, they tend to walk away and find new sets of women that are more interesting than you.

So my only advice is…

Never give all your love away. Always keep something for yourself.

I believe that there are still decent men out there who can offer us genuine love and will completely accept us for who and what we really are.

A guy who is willing to join us whenever we need to get rid of something; help us change only what is necessary. However, the right guy will only come to us only if we are also willing to wait for him to arrive.

We may be also forgetting that men think differently than us. That’s a common problem to us, women. We often conclude that if the man or our boyfriend truly loves us, he should know better on what we want in life. Ugh! Nope! Men are not fortune tellers who know what’s gonna happen. So we should better lower our pride and be confident enough in becoming vocal about our desires.

And stop being a nagger like it is always his fault for being clueless.

Men hate women who’s acting like a brat all the time.

That is too much to handle for them. What worst is that, you could provoke him into doing something he is actually not used to.

Spur of the moment action would be like offensive words against you, spanking or yelling. Those actions may have been avoided if you correct your tone of voice, calm down and never provoke him.

So if you want to have a romantic date, then say what your date should look like. Describe the place precisely. What motif do you expect to see?

Something like that would avoid arguments and who knows, by simply maintaining a healthy conversation with him would make this man want you more!

You know why?

Because you were very calm and know exactly what you want. Having that kind of personality is a plus point to a man.

Just to clarify, you are not being demanding. You are just simply suggesting and that’s different. Okay?

Rather than to be disappointed and broken because the date didn’t go according to what you imagine it to be, might as well voice it out before it’s too late. Right?

Two things that are hard to get rid in us are doubts and fears that lead women to assume that we are not loved or even liked by them for they fail to know what we all wanted for a date or for any other meet-ups.

Ladies, if you have something in mind, say it! Don’t pretend that you know nothing about dating, because we do. We really do!

For obvious reason, we are too shy and timid to admit it towards them. However, if the man doesn’t bother or give enough attention to our liking, then he might be not really into us.

If our boyfriend also doesn’t think it seriously, then maybe he doesn’t love or like us the way that we do for them.

That’s sort of an unrequited love.

Because we weren’t given back the same amount of love just like we did for them.

Going back to being transparent with our partner, keep in mind that our request to a man doesn’t have to require so much work or to even cost a lot. We’re only requesting to somehow at least do things in our own terms and not his.

Say for instance, we all want a set of candle lights for our dinner date or a live performance while having a meal with him.

Of course, he still has the freedom to select which place to go, what food to order, and how much money he’s willing to spend for you.

Again, he still has a lot of freedom, but the idea and concept of date came from you.

Always leave something for him and that is the freedom to choose. Letting him to make decisions is a good feeling to any men. Don’t make him feel that he cannot do something for you. Only suggest, but the action must come from him.

Men often love to become a hero to any women. Preventing him to make other decisions is like making him feel that he is not useful to you and you don’t need him at all. Still leave something for him to showcase his skills or talents.

By also letting him do a certain task means that you trust him well enough.

So remember, don’t do all the work. Make him do something to please you.

Do you get now what is the ultimate secret in winning his heart?

That is by simply letting him become a hero to you and be frank when it comes to decision making.

Of course, you also need to be sweet, caring, loving, trustworthy, career driven, family oriented, God fearing, etc. etc. etc. But without these two, it would all be nothing.

‘Cause if you truly want a love to work, there should be a give & take and honesty as well between you and that person to deepen relationship.

Before I forgot, I would like also to point out that by being honest takes courage as well and man wants a brave person; someone who has a fighting spirit and not a drama queen all the time.

If you can talk to him about anything, this man would feel that you valued and trusted him.

That would mean a lot to men.

Apart from what I mentioned, choosing to be honest with your partner means that you are confident and comfortable enough to open-up to him.

Letting him know what we are actually going through is also an open door to help us to be well understood.

So I am praying and hoping everyone to please stop treating men like women who can easily sense what we are going through.

They are not like us, so stop blaming men for their cluelessness.

They are innocent and if we desperately want to earn a man’s love and respect, then we should know and understand that blaming someone isn’t healthy and helpful at all.

You are just shooing them and not letting them to help you out.

Some men become extra careful with their words and actions once they knew something is troubling you and offer you to become your support system whenever you needed to.

So it is also not the man’s duty to love and understand you eternally, but it should be a teamwork!

If you want to keep a man, then help him to understand you as well. There’s no other way to keep the connection going if you are not being so cooperative.

Relationship takes hard work and love is a day to day basis. Just like plant, it dies if it fails to be taken care of.

If all else fails, give yourself and your man some space.

Did you know about the “cave” thing into a man’s life?

I’ve read in one book that if all things got messy, worst or too much to handle, men need to go back to his own cave to be alone. And this is not to show that this man isn’t capable of commitment and love. But this man wants some space to think well. To correct whatever mistakes he has done. And when he finishes it with no interruption, he can now return to you.

So remember, when he needs space…

You need to give it to him. Otherwise, he would get tried trying to understand you all the time and was no longer even sure if he can still commit to a woman who cannot even understand his need to go back to his own cave in the first place.

Men are not expressive, but when they do, it just means that it is already too much to take for them.

But if you allow a man to go to somewhere quiet; his comfort zone (his cave), and you never scold him for allowing him to take a break, the next thing you know, he will come back chasing you, why?

Because you let him to work on himself alone. He misses you and for sure, he will do the same for you. ‘Cause he knows what it feels like to be occupied with so many things that need to find some quiet place to think and calm down for a bit.

This coming Valentine’s Day, may we learn to be understanding and patient with each other. And hopefully, not only for one occasion, but everyday we have to try ’til the very end.

If you want to understand more on how men and women think differently, I suggest that you read the book of John Gray ” Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus “.

If I can recall correctly, this is where I learned the “cave” thing for men. I’ve read it when I was still in college and it is still helpful and relevant today.

If you want to win love, why not give it a try?

After all, we only have one life. So enjoy as much as you can, but please be very careful with whom you want want to spend time with.

Thank you for patiently reading my blog post and though it is still a month ahead, I now want you all to greet a Happy Valentine’s Day in advance!

I hope it would all be special and memorable for all of us.

Also Read: Why This Should Be Your Relationship Goals?

Again, thank you for reading my post and God bless you!

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Understand love with a grain of salt

Hello, RT Supporters! I hope all of you had a blast on a New Year despite pandemic. May we all welcome 2021 and pray for it to be a better year.

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To be honest I already have a scheduled post this Saturday. However, something came up and I started to change my mind all because someone unexpectedly left a message just to call me, chubby. Well, to be honest gaining weight doesn’t necessarily mean neglecting your health.

There are a lot of factors why people gain weight and I will not go further more on that since there is much more important thing that I want to say and that is, every person is lovable regardless of its shape.

I am not encouraging nor promoting obesity, what I am saying is to eat right, be healthy and wait patiently to have someone who truly deserves your heart.

Now is already 2021 and I want the youth to have a better understanding of love and why you need to consider a lot of things first before deciding to be with someone.

In my 26 years of existence and would be turning 27 this year of September, I think I already know a few of why it is better to be single first than to go with the flow of being in a relationship just like everyone else.

When I was still 15 years old, my perspective about love was shallow and simple.

As long as I love him and he loves me, that’s already enough.

To anyone here who’s young, don’t hurry love ’cause you are more prone to being gullible and vulnerable. You thought you already know about love once you’ve felt it, but totally not.

Love is something that needs to be taken care of.

This is not something to be taken for granted. And just because you are lovable and capable to love doesn’t mean you’ll never run out of love, you do. You just thought everything will be fine. But to be honest, you are just way too excited to be in a relationship and once love has not been reciprocated, you’ll soon get worn out.

Just like plant, you still need to water it everyday. Otherwise, it will die pretty soon. And that’s the same thing with love.

Do not ever be satisfied by the famous 3 words, I Love You. ‘Cause if the person truly loves you, he would be willing enough to commit and would think of your feelings first before saying mean things out of his mouth.

I am not saying to look for a perfect man. What I am saying is simply find or wait to have a better guy who can console you whatever happens.

Don’t settle for a man who only sees you as an object and would only be present for you for convenience alone.

Don’t treat yourself that low ’cause if the man genuinely loves you, he will come running for you, reaching out as far as he could just to be with you.

And to the man who failed to commit with us, let us be happy that we’ve already get through with them especially to the man who’s so afraid of commitment and who’s always been there with us ’cause he knows that we’re still in love with them and he can still make himself useful. But now? Though we still value the friendship, our good memories with them, hopefully that’s all that is left in our hearts.

Keep in mind that we deserve better and I hope you young lady reading this will make you change your mind and will wait for a little bit longer.

I know waiting is something hard and impossible to achieve, but once the wait is finally over, you’ll realize that your perseverance to wait truly pays off.

Just think of it this way, why settle for a man that would disappear and no assurance of coming back? Why not go for a man who’s willing to accept you just the way you are and is willing to be patient with you no matter what it takes.

Just to clarify, the man who truly deserves your heart is a guy who won’t question your flaws, but would be willing enough to help you grow and mature in time. Someone who would build your character and find no time to belittle you.

A lot of times when we are madly in love, we are often blinded by the idea of accepting the bad sides of a person just because we love him and so we accepted the spanking, cheating, harsh words and the like. We failed to realize that we are the only one who’s capable to love and never him.

Don’t wait for the right time, leave the person whenever you can.

Don’t waste your life just for a single person who never sees your worth. And be thankful and proud once you were able to escape and get over him.

This post is not only meant for us, women but for men as well. We all deserve to be loved and I do hope that before searching for that kind of relationship, we must know how to treat ourselves rightly. So when the right person comes…we can love fully.

Thank you for reading my blog post and I would be giving another bonus topic by next Sunday. Stay tune!

How to beat depression on a holiday?

Hello, RT Peeps! I hope all of you are having a great time with your family today since it’s a special celebration of the birth of Christ.

May you all have a joyful Christmas and I hope to give a light to someone who’s far away from home due to pandemic, work commitments, and any other circumstances.

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2020 has been the most painful year for all of us because of Covid-19 pandemic, Beirut explosions, Super Typhoon and many more.

People in general is currently dealing with depression today because some had lost their loved ones. Some even became homeless due to Beirut explosions or Super typhoon. While others end up being jobless due to Covid-19 which lead people to feel lost, empty, and depressed for there is nothing more that they could do, but to accept it.

Despite the fact that covid-19 vaccine is becoming available all across the world, still it would probably take a couple of years for us to recover from all the disasters.

To be honest, when I was still a little girl I frequently think of suicide as if it is the best solution that I could ever have.

Today is Friday and I am about to discuss how depression affects every person and being suicidal is one of the most common factors of depression.

Even though we know to ourselves that the best solution is to face it for us to conquer our fear…sadly we refrain from giving it another try. You see, not everyday we have enough courage to stand on our own. That is why we still need a support system for us to win over depression.

In most common cases, when people are depressed we tend to isolate ourselves from others. We even skip meals. We also often make unhealthy decisions for ourselves that is not helping at all. We even try to escape from feeling low and helpless. However, we failed in overcoming our fears and doubts that made us trapped or stuck in that situation. As a result of that, we now lost the courage to search for an escape and perceive things negatively as if it is unchangeable.

Whoever may be reading this and is currently dealing with depression today…may this blog helps you in any possible way.

These are just some of the things that I know and I often do in order to beat depression. Feel free to add more!

Simple and practical ways to conquer depression especially on a holiday:

Pray

I begun to pray the holy rosary after Super typhoon “Rolly” landed in Catanduanes last November 1, 2020 leaving most people with no homes. Pandemic isn’t over yet and here were are facing another calamity. Too much to handle that I ask God to give me more wisdom and strength to carry on in life.

I know, this may be a simple routine of praying, but with consistent effort could somehow strengthen our faith in Christ.

There are only 2 things that might happen. First, either you understand your problem or second, you gain some strength in dealing with your problems. Whatever it may be, for sure it would yield some good results.

As what Kelly Clarkson’s song says, What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger

If you are depressed and commiting suicide is the only option you are looking forward to, why not seek God’s help?

After all, praying is not for the weak, but for the strong person to admit that he or she is needing some guidance.

Sleep

When everything else is too much to handle, I just choose to sleep rather than be awake ’til midnight. Being awake when everyone else is sleeping invites you into doing something dangerous like jumping off the roof; slashing your wrist with any sharp object; bumping your head on the wall ’til it hurts, etc. So for me to stop entertaining any negative thoughts, I just force myself to sleep.

In addition to that, sleeping helps us to think more clearly. When you had enough sleep, your mind and body are in a good state which helps you to make a quick and hopefully a better decision.

So if you are wondering if there are still better days to come, just hold on tight and trust the Lord with all your heart. Whatever you may be going through today is just a stepping stone to find meaning in your life.

Just think of it this way…if life would be too easy, then there is nothing more better days to look forward to. Life would eventually becomes dull and boring without the existence of problems.

You may live in comfort, but find no meaning or purpose in life. And I bet, that is more tragic to hear than having problems like the rest.

Vitamins

I don’t know if it is something psychological, but every time I take vitamins it often made me feel better. There is probably a particular substance which helps me to feel more relaxed and happier.

Upon research, there are really an existing vitamins for depression. Please check the link provided for it better explains what specific vitamins that can help us improve our mind condition.

Anyway, you are free to choose whether to take vitamins or consume real fruits. Eating something sweets also help you to feel better, just don’t overdo it or your depression could get worsen.

One article on healthline.com, The Connection Between Sugar and Depression clearly explains why we should not depend too much on sweets. So better take everything moderately.

Music

It is indeed true that through listening to beautiful melodies give us comfort which helps us to think less of our problems. Listening to instruments is a good choice, too.

Music can even uplift our spirit and may help us in actually moving on from a failed relationship, career, or a dream.

I remember when someone broke my heart, I used to listen to Camila Cabello’s song “Consequences” and just by simply listening to its beat and its lyrics, it really do help me cope from a failed relationship for it enables me to release my emotions with ease.

I highly suggest to choose a song that suits you well. Select a song that is similar to what you are currently going through ’cause that way, you’ll know that you are not the only one who’s experiencing it.

Besides, artists won’t be able to compose a song or sing it with feelings if they haven’t been there. Each and everyone of us go through that phase. We just assumed that our problems are absolutely unique, but it do happen to others a well. We are just completely unaware of it.

Apart from that, what I love about music is the fact that it could change our mood in an instant. Every time you feel bad about anything, remind yourself that music is something we could easily turn to.

And for those who had lost whatever and whoever that is important to them…music may not be the answer to our problems, but it is a way to release whatever hard feelings we may be going through.

As what I learned from “Burnout” book of Emily & Amelia Nagoski, you have to complete the stress cycle.

A lot of people is experiencing an extreme stress or sadness which leads them to end their lives all because of failing to open up.

Taking all the problems from themselves alone isn’t a healthy idea because once they are gone on earth, their problems remain unsolved and they were only able to escape from it.

So for you to complete the stress cycle, you have to feel the pain and don’t cover it by pretending to people or even to yourself that you are totally okay.

You’re not okay and letting yourself to feel the pain or the hurt is also a way to heal from it. That is why there’s a saying that, “Crying is good for the soul” because you were able to release whatever you are feeling inside.

Keeping it would just deepen the pain and would prevent you from fixing it or getting it healed, so start by being honest with yourself and learn from it.

Watch

Same thing with music, this kind of activity helps you to cope with our pain or loss.

Watching anything is also a good outlet to be away from whatever we are going through today.

I believe, visuals are one of the most effective tools we can use to teach ourselves from accepting all the good and bad experiences and recognizing the purpose of it.

Probably God is teaching us to be strong, patient and to deepen our own understanding for whatever problems we may be dealing with.

Every time I got depressed, I used to watch series and end up binge watching whatever that intrigues me or find it interesting. Aside from that, it occupies our mind to a new knowledge, learning, and experience which is something beneficial to us, humans.

So do yourself a favor, find something to watch that can help you deal with depression today.

To be honest, we are very much fortunate ’cause everything is already at the tip of our fingers. It would only depend on how will we use our downtime.

I highly recommend, “The Queen’s Gambit”. It’s a limited series on Netflix.

See how she was able to overcome herself from being addicted to pills. All along, she thought that pills is the answer to help her concentrate from solving chess, but truly not. Because her talent and dedication in winning for the game of chess is already enough.

She was just blinded by the idea that pills is everything that she only have…when in fact, there are a lot of people who cares and worries for her.

She was also blinded by the idea of being unworthy ’cause her own biological mother left her. So what expects her to gain an unconditional love from others. It was (again) a limited series and I hope you mind watching it.

But for anyone who’s underage, I suggest to watch Jingle Jangle: A Christmas Journey movie which I recently post. This talks about regaining back your confidence from yourself.

Read

I already mentioned many times that I am suicidal that is why, I became so much fond of reading. This is not only for the sake of enriching my english vocabulary, but for the mind to keep busy. This has been my escape to all my frustrations in life. Whenever I read, it felt like I already travelled the world.

When you discover and learn new things, it broadens your horizon. Despite the fact I am suicidal, I begun to think that if I put an end on my life…then all my efforts in becoming great will become wasted.

Challenge yourself to read. This mental exercise will nourish us to make a mature and better decisions for our great future. So, let’s give it a try.

Write

As what people often say, you are a great writer whenever you are hurt, disappointed, depressed, frustrated, and the like.

Simply because writing gives you a release of emotion and the freedom to express whatever you feel.

The reason why I chose blogging is because I used to write down all my experiences, the good and the bad.

When you blog, you are now sharing it with people and oftentimes, we don’t want others to correct or judge our own mistakes. We simply want ourselves to be heard by anyone and that’s more than enough.

It is still up to us what to do with our own lives. That’s why there’s a phrase “feelings for feelings” which I learned from one of my business seminars I attended to. It simply means understanding the shoe of others or humbly empathizing with them.

If you are not fond of reading and you want some other outlet to release what you are feeling inside, then maybe this is now the right time to find the essence of writing. If you are not comfortable from sharing it to anyone, it is better to write it down and also jot down the solutions to be made in order to overcome depression.

Eat

We are a good eater when we are going through something ’cause we needed the energy to suppress not only hunger, but stress as well. Unfortunately, people tend to eat more than the expected consumption of food and that’s called emotional or stress eating.

Whenever I am stressed out, I tend to eat more. And the moment I realize it, I need to encourage myself to eat at the right time.

If we often deprive ourselves from food, more often than not, we will end up to overeat.

Make sure to eat right on time to prevent you from indulging yourself from overeating.

For those who are heartbroken or far away from home this Christmas, I suggest to monitor what you eat. Not only that it might put a harm to your health, but would make you more depressed if you don’t pay attention to what you eat.

Choose food to eat that is light and healthy. Gaining weight will only add more to your stress, not unless you don’t care much about your body shape or figure.

But again, this not about looking good, but mostly feeling good about yourself inside.

Drink

Humans used to consume water everyday because that is a necessity to our body. But not all drinks promote the same benefits.

Water is expected to have zero calories and to cleanse our body.

If you’re being depressed due to weight gain, then drinking green or black tea would somehow help.

If you’re having an insomia, drinking a glass of camomile may somehow improve your sleeping habits and prevent us from overthinking.

If you want to have a good scent of drink, serve yourself a glass of infused pure peppermint. You’ll enjoy it’s minty smell and so with its taste.

Why am I recommending something to drink? Simple. I want people to try something else to drink.

It maybe a just drink, but each of them has a special purpose which can contribute to a healthy lifestyle.

But coffee & wine are my most favorite drinks whenever I am depressed or stressed out. Both of them promotes good health, too so long as you drink it in moderation.

And some prefer to drink hard liquors to forget about their problems even for just a day and you are free to try it, just don’t abuse yourself. But it’s a “No” for minors.

Drinking is also like eating. You need to take something in order for you to relieve stress. Whatever drink you prefer, free feel to choose just be aware of it’s side effects.

So just drink and not overdrink!

Chores

Ugh! The most awful thing to do is chores, but it is also the most rewarding thing to do.

Whenever you feel that everything is not falling into places, the most simple thing to do is to declutter. Chores isn’t about cleaning, but also getting rid of your old stuff. Things that have no more value to you.

It’s time to share your unused things with others for your area to be spacious; able to breathe and relax.

Messy surroundings will only add more stress to you and by simply doing this simple step would help you to concentrate more.

If you are not fond of doing chores, then look around if you are not bothered by the same vibe. Changing also the position of your stuff could help in de-stressing as well.

Some do chores just to redocorate the whole room for them to change its vibe and for them to attract more positive elements.

Whatever you plan to do with your room or your house, just know that what you are doing is for the sake of keeping your mind away from all the negative energy that you’re getting from stress, anxiety, and the like.

So ladies and gentlemen, do not underestimate the importance of chores.

Thank me later!

Outdoors

There are a lot of things you need to be thankful for ’cause it is free. Look at the sunshine. Go out for a walk or run a marathon. Whatever outdoor activity that you’re interested in will be worth it.

I would like to take note that going outside doesn’t really mean going on a trip. Since it is still pandemic we are constrained to go outside, but we are not limited to ideas.

If your house has a roof, you can simply stand still and let your body receive the heat of the sunlight. You can do some stretching to warm up your body.

If you have a playground or a garden, then you can simply water the plant or play with your pet if ever you have one.

Outdoor doesn’t mean you have to travel far. A lot of times we just need to recharge and change our cycle especially our surroundings to be able to cope with our depression.

Socialize

Oh c’mon! Even though some of you are introvert, you still need to mingle with other people. I am not encouraging anyone to talk with strangers, but I am asking you to communicate with others.

Oftentimes, we got depressed simply because we thought that we are the only one who’s having a difficulty in life.

When we socialize with others most especially our loved ones, we’ll know that all of us have problems and you’re not alone all along.

Voicing out your struggles to your confidant helps you to release the weight you are feeling inside and when it gradually release all the heaviness a person is carrying, it would eventually create a relief which is a good thing to everyone’s health.

Exercise

This kind of activity can also be done at home. There are a lot of workouts over the internet. You can choose a cardio or a strength training. The type of workout would only depend on your goals.

Be sure to do some warm ups, cool downs before and after workout. If you don’t have a trainer, you can start by doing little reps to condition your body.

Please remember that we are not the same, so only do some exercises that you can only bear.

Exercise helps a lot to de-stress and if you do this regulary, dealing with depression would somehow be lessened. Not only that it clears your mind and relaxes your body, but daily workout is proven to promote wellness.

Consult

If you are really having a hard time to open up your problems even to your family, then I must say that you need to consult yourself from a health professionals such as Psychiatrist.

This is not only for the crazy people out there, but to anyone who currently has mental, emotional, or behavioral problems.

They may prescribe a medicine that may be beneficial to your emotional condition.

A lot of times we are in denial to admit that we don’t need to seek help ’cause we feel that nobody would want to listen, so why not solve it on our own. Right?

But the reason why we are becoming more depressed is because we are not letting it out. Instead of opening up, we are putting a wall to others which prevents them from being able to be of a help to us.

Of course, consulting to experts need courage and the ball is all yours.

The very first person to know if someone needs some counseling is yourself. I know it may cost some money, but it’s gonna be worth it.

Call

This is for anyone who’s needing an immediate help.

Call the suicide hotline whenever possible.

Depression isn’t a joke and so is your life.

You matter and to anyone who’s losing now the faith in Christ must acknowledge that he/she needs guidance or support from someone.

Do it today and I assure you, your life is not a waste. Keep reminding yourself that whatever you are feeling today is just temporary and for that, I thank you for minding to read my blog post for today.

By the way, I’ve posted a lot that is related to my topic today.

Feel free to check it out if you need something more to read.

Motivational Quotes From Jingle Jangle

Optimism is a decision, not a trait.

Why do people commit suicide?

Deep and profound!

How is your day going?

How Do You Cope With This Whole Quarantine Thing?

Once again, thank you and God bless!

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How do you manage stress or how you were able to beat depression?


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Blogging 101: Does scheduled post works?

Due to our busy schedule, this feature helps us achieve a sense of productivity.

But here are the things that you need to consider first.

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⁃ Giving yourself a deadline helps you to become productive. However, know that if you craft is still not good enough…better delay it than criticize your work for your negligence.

⁃ Do not also post just for the sake of being active. Only post once you are done proofreading. I often say this thing, do not underestimate the essence of having a content or a substance.

⁃ Do not copy anyone’s work. Always remember that you can only stand out from the crowd if you choose to be original.

This is the reason why I do not read all bloggers’ work in fear of copying their style for writing.

You can get some help or gain some insights, but never let yourself to be somebody else. Let the people admire you for who you are.

But here’s the heartbreaking truth…

Not everyone will like about what you post. You can recommend your blog, but never force them to read everything. Accept that all of us have different interests in life and that, having few readers is enough especially when you are new to this field.

Just don’t stop blogging for whatever that interests you and make sure that it is worthy of their time.

If you want to build a strong and long lasting connection to your readers, just try to be as interesting as possible. Ask them about what’s on their mind or how they feel about it. In that way, they wouldn’t feel that you are just talking to yourself and avoiding people to react on your work.

And remember, there’s always room for improvement. So be always open to feedback and never dwell on any forms of criticism.

Thank you for reading my short post and God bless! I hope you will be able to post with all honesty and not only for the sake of gaining more viewers.

If you were able to read everything…


What has been the most challenging part when you were just a newbie in the field of blogging?


Happy weekend, guys! Feel free to comment below. Stay healthy and keep safe. Gracias!

Optimism is a decision, not a trait.

Hello, RT Peeps! I really hope that everyone is doing fine.

What I am about to share with you is optimism. But before anything else, I would like to clarify that I am the opposite one.

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Honestly, I grew up hating my life because this is not something that I had wish to have.

I am grateful, but not contented.

I almost have everything, but I often end up dissatisfied with the kind of life that I have.

So what gives me the right to speak about optimism, right?

But last night, when I was already resting someone texted me and told me that they were already on roof due to typhoon “Ulysses” which caused the areas to be engulfed by flood.

All homes were soaked in water with mud and I started to cry out of worry.

But you know what this person told me?

What’s with that worry? We are all fine! This person told me that I should be strong and be more thankful to God for they are still alive.

But let’s admit, our loved ones is our “achilles’ heel” that made it hard for us to see and accept the fact that they are suffering so much especially in this time of pandemic and now, facing another catastrophe in our lives.

Looking back, when I was in college I had a thesis about the effects of happy disposition and it seems like this person knows well my study more than I do.

How ironic, right? Seems to be more educated as well ’cause it did not affect this person’s point of view in life no matter how bad life gets and this made me feel more special to have someone who has that kind of thinking…much matured and full of positivity in life!

Now, I can attest that my philosophy professor was right in claiming that the most giving persons on earth were the poor ones.

Simply because they are still willing to share whatever that is left on them because they know how it feels to have nothing.

Sad to say, we need to see the sufferings of others not really to pity on them, but only to help us realize how lucky we are and that, we must be ashamed of God for making a fuss rather than praising him for all the blessings he had given to us.

Of course , I cannot promise to everyone that I would be as positive as this person, but somehow it moved me in choosing to be positive more often than to worry and complain a lot of things.

Just so you know, I became really depressed this month because I was constrained to do what I like. So down that it felt like I was not given a good life ’cause I was like a prisoner in our own house.

But after knowing what this person is going through, unexpectedly it gave me a meaningful message that I would never forget and that is…

Seeing the sufferings of our loved ones serve as an eye-opener on how we look at our own lives. God let us see the suffering of our loved ones to help us appreciate the blessings that was given to us in which we often took for granted.

Kudos to this person for making me realize that I was so wrong the whole time. I just feel suffocated, envy, and too desperate to get all my desires.

Hoping that I was able to give a light to others despite the fact that I am in no position to say these things. Just would like to help especially those who were already losing their faith in God.

It may not be our time, but with patience and right mindset, we will soon get there!

Maybe God has not given my plea all because of my tantrums, lack of faith in Him and most of all, comparing myself too often to anyone.

I am deeply sorry for acting foolish, oh Lord. Hopefully, this will be the starting point of changing my outlook in life that whatever storm we will face, there will always be a silver lining.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog post and I do hope that you also learned something today. God bless!οΏΌ

If you were able to finish reading my work…


What for you is the most annoying thing that has ever happened in your life, but felt guilty after learning the purpose of it?


Me?

Thinking that the worst enemy is my parents ’cause they are so controlling, strict and very conservative.

I’m already 26 years old. Had finished my studies and already working for almost 5 years now. But still they never allowed me to date or to hangout with friends just to travel. It should only be within our area and with a companion as well.

My life was about school and now, all about work since it’s a family business. I never really got a chance to get a normal life nor given too much freedom. And it adds more pain in my heart to be stuck at home due to Covid-19 threat. I became even more paranoid knowing that my life revolves around work and family alone.

That’s how I lived my life. I’ve been deprived for so long that it hurts so much that I never got a chance to have a kind of freedom just like everyone else. It’s true that when I was born, they were already wealthy and so they secured our life too much that sometimes, it became more stressful at home rather than fun.

But after assessing my life, I can proudly say that I am in good hands the moment that I was born. I may be got bullied at school, but never did I had a chance to be drunk and be raped which is too common for teenagers since they are the most gullible and vulnerable one.

Having strict parents is also a blessing ’cause whoever man that will come into your life, you can assure that you will be respected all because of them.

And whatever respect that I am receiving, the credit goes to my parents for molding me into a better person.

Of course, I am still hoping and wishing to grant my prayer and request since I am now matured and old enough. I promise that I would be more careful on whatever decisions that I will make in the future for them to stop worrying.

Now, it’s your turn to share. I am open whatever you want to share with me.

Feel free to comment below!

Gracias!

Cursing someone is not a good thing.

You know, it is hard to live when someone is just waiting for you to lose in the game of life.

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Today, my post will be short and simple. I was cursed by just one mistake. I was cursed that if something bad happen, it is because of my little mistake.

One mistake, end of your life!

How about you? How does it feel to be cursed by someone who is dear to you?

I am in deep shocked knowing that someone who is close to me can say such hurtful word like that.

How totally lame to focus more on the mistakes of others than to see and value them for their good deeds!

Thank you for taking the time to read my post and I am doing fine despite the curse that I unexpectedly received today.

Deep and profound!

Sunday is my only free time to read a book and while I was reading on page 77, this short poem of John Maxwell captured my attention.

Isn’t it true that life comes only after pain? ‘Cause in pain we get to understand the true meaning of life. So while we are still alive, do things that will leave a beautiful mark in our world, most especially in this time of pandemic.

Make use of your time wisely. Share what you can only give and never look down on others. Always be respectful and know that for every blessing you receive is just borrowed from God above.

I hope you enjoyed the short poem that I’ve shared with you all. Happy Sunday and may you enjoy the rest of the day. πŸ’›

It’s Not About The Price Tag

Though the price is a big factor for it determines the quality of a certain thing, yet at the end of the day…still it is the effort that counts!

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Whether it’s a bag, a pair of shoes, a V-neck T-shirt, a jewelry, and the like, there’s no better feeling of having people who extend their hands just to let you know that you are important to them.

I am not saying, you should be more open to accept any kinds of gift, most especially to strangers…for it is not a hundred percent safe! What I am just saying is, to at least learn to appreciate them. I know, some gifts may be cheaper, but it also gives you the same feeling just like any other gifts. And that is, being able to put a smile on your face.

I remember, whenever I receive a gift from people, I often remind myself that I should be more thankful to them for they spare some of their money just to make me happy.

They shared their blessings to us, so why can’t we have an eye that is accepting enough to give value even to those that are cheaper.

And lastly, why can’t we have an eye that sees the real value of sharing?

I guess, all it takes is to get to know the person well before giving a gift.

Simply because, some women prefer a unisex stuff like a plain T-shirt in a camouflage jeans. And some are way too girly, like wearing a pink little dress in a cute dolly shoes.

So I guess, people will appreciate it more if you at least match it with their personality. πŸ’—

That’s why, the ultimate secret in making a person happy is not really about the price tag, but (again) the effort in choosing and getting the right stuff for them.

You know what, few months ago, I remember having a difficulty on what to give on my parents’ birthday for they almost have everything. So, why would I still need to make an effort. Right?

But I came to realize that regardless of life’s status, people are all the same. For they never fail to smile whenever they are rewarded with any kinds of gift, most especially if it can be a great help for them.

How about you? Do you think more of what kind of gift a person deserves to receive or just for the sake of showing off that you have loads of money on your pocket?

Feel free to listen to Jessie J’s song, “Price Tag“. That was already an old song, but it is still a gold for me. Anyway, the song tells us that money can’t really buy happiness. Only for a short period of time.

And that’s it! Please share your thoughts with us and let’s spread kindness to each and everyone. Thank you, RT Peeps for reading my lengthy post. God bless!


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Life is a Journey. Not a Marathon.

When I started blogging, I thought it was easier to earn cash for you could do it without spending much time.

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But I have come to realize that for you to monetize your blog, you have to build a community. You have to earn their trust first. You have to crawl as hard as possible and not to walk fast. ‘Cause again, life is a journey…a continuous progess to make. And not a marathon that just because you have something to say, you can post it right away.

Blogging takes time, takes effort for it to grow. So, if you are in a situation where in, you really don’t know what’s going on in your life, might as well take a break.

I guess, this is one of the short blog posts that I will be sharing with you all. But I hope you get something from it.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. God bless!


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